Comforting versus Confrontation

When difficult times like sadness and at lost moments, people tend to seek for a companion to talk to and perhaps to comfort them. This is a thing that most of us do whenever we face such situations. Some may want to be alone in a moment but believe me or not, human nature will prevail and that is to seek companion in various ways.

Comforting is common ground in different perks and circles. When someone from your circle of friends is hurt, we tend to comfort them. 

"Everything is gonna be alright." 

"Move on! You're way much prettier than his new girlfriend."

"You can have another chance. Just try and try."

But do you know that too much comfort to those who are at lose will not be too helpful at all times? It can even mislead personal view at time of desperation, then might become a fantasy that blindfolds the lonely one. 

Confrontation is an act where you need to face and need to swallow the truth. You need to live in reality not with fantasized and illusioned dream. This will help you point out what's wrong, what's the point and reflect what you need to do. 

A confrontation from a friend, relative and family will do. But the great confrontation that you could ever have is a CONFRONTATION OF YOURSELF'S PRINCIPLE, FEELING AND VISION! 

"You should try a bit more, you are still lacking in this area."

"You are to fat/thin that's why he broke up with you. Dress up. Go to the gym."

But once again, using confrontation at all times will probably put more weight in someone's heart. And just like how a song lyrics goes, "Too much love will kill you.." so confrontation does. Because if a person receives too much confrontation, he/she might lose self-worth and self-confidence. 

Thus, in order to deal with life's misfortunes and sadness learn to both have comfort and confrontation as a way to think brighter and to ease the pain inside. 

Read the mood and think of the best way to handle. 

Is it enough and time to slap the truth?

Or is it time for a genuine comfort?