Quarter-life crisis

If only young people come back one day ....  this famous house is frequented by many elderly people these days, bemoaning them for the days of their youth, either because they did not achieve their dreams or they missed the opportunity to benefit from them properly, or as we call it conventionally the midlife crisis that occurs among some Between the ages of 40-50 years.

As for what we are about to talk about, this crisis began to appear at an earlier age than we mentioned previously, so a new term appeared to us, which was called the “quarter of life crisis,” which is spread among some young people in the age group between 20-30 years. Alexandra Robbins and Abbie Wilner were the first to use the term "quarter-life crisis" to describe the anxieties of young adults in 2001. 

Living this stage of life in the era of technology and the Internet and the abundance of  available options is different from what the young man went through in the age of grandparents, where we now live  in an accelerating age in which there are many internal and external psychological pressures, in which job opportunities are reduced and  there is a lot of struggle over their victory, an era in which it is spreading Diseases  and wars, which increases confusion and anxiety among young people, so you find them constantly struggling,  feeling insecure and anxious, and that time passes while it has not progressed, and age is passing and  he does not know which way to take.

Young people live at this stage an internal struggle between preserving their responsibilities towards  their families and between meeting their own needs, between trying to know who he is and what he wants  and achieving society's expectations for a young man of his age where everyone is waiting for him to settle into  a profession and buy a house, enter married life and have children Children, however, is unable  to fulfill all these expectations.

This crisis is characterized by several manifestations:

1- Excessive psychological stress.

2- Lack of hope, abandonment of previous ambitions and dreams, and thus satisfaction with anything.

3- Despair, frustration, and self-blame.

4- Depression.

5- Associated feeling of confusion  (Am I walking in the right way?).

6- Nostalgia for the past.

7- Fear of failure.

8- Feeling of fear and loneliness.

9- Reluctance to do something.

10- Questioning your goals  (lack of clarity and definition, and the feeling that others are better than you) g

 It is the lowest stage in which a person can deal with psychological pressure, but there is no  need to worry, as many people go through it and overcome it after a period of  time, as the percentage of those who survived this crisis within two years of its occurrence, as  one study indicates, is 80%.

How to overcome the crisis ?:

1- Seek change.

 If you are in a job that you do not like, change it or at the very least, change your way of dealing with it.

2- Don't be afraid of a mistake.

We are all human, and we must make mistakes in order to learn. A little error is a little experience.

3- Be patient.

It may take some time to overcome this crisis.

4- Understand that this crisis is an opportunity for change and to live the life you dream of.

5- Do activities that get you excited.

6- Do not try to follow the same path that others follow, as success is not only one path.

7- Set your goals.  Set clear and specific goals that meet your own needs, and can be achieved in the short term  (up to a maximum of 5 years) because it is unlikely to make a major change in  your life without setting a goal and until you have a clear idea of ​​where you are going.

8- Have self-awareness.  Communicate with yourself and know who you are and what you want? What are your values ​​and principles ? What do you like and what you dislike, know your mission in life and your goals.

8- Develop your self-confidence.

9- Learn new skills.  (Self-affirmation skills, priority setting, and planning skill).