When you born in a house where everyone is always ready for a fight, you just do what you see and what you learn from your house. No school, or any other education institute can teach you life lesson better than your own house and the people inside of it. In this world, most of the parents love to control their kids, that's because they've learned only one thing about kids, "control them, do not become their friend, do not let them share what they feel or they'll be out of your hands".
This is the approach of our parents toward us. And there's nobody questioning them, because unfortunately, unfortunately our parents love to blackmail us by their words and emotions. If a kid makes a mistake in his/her childhood, our parents love to slap that kid or scare that kid. They scare the kid like 'if he/she is going to cry once more, her mother or father going to slap him/her so hard that he /she won't be able to cry anymore". The kids do have that thing in their brain, where they stop sharing with parents.
If something is happening In their school, someone is bullying them or harassing them, they won't tell those parents who will slap and kick their own kid for being so weak while their words and their way of talking and their behavior is the reason that these kids are scared and are so weak in this cruel world where they seek help from their parents but what do they get, they betrayed by their own parents and they stop sharing, they stop feeling emotions.
And then some of them become "silent and living with it " type of personality but some take their stress out on other kids or other people or maybe when they start growing up, they use same method their parents used at them and they feel nothing, no harshness in their words because this is what they're seeing from the day 1. And than our parents feel embarrassed, left alone or maybe they understand what they have done but it's too late to make things right now.
I am not blaming every parent here. I am not saying that we should stop respecting our parents but if your parents beat you up without any reason and it becomes everyday thing what would a kid going to learn? He/she will understand that there's no reason to say no to your elders and then that kid will definitely the same to his/her kids and the cycle will go on and on. And no one will understand who's wrong and who's right because we are not sitting together and not listening to each other. Where is the humanity gone?
Why we feel so embarrassed while sharing something with our parents? Because they won't understand, and why parents don't wanna Understand? Because they say that they've also gone through same things and they never cried about it, they never said a word and they were okay with it. I just wanna say that not every kid will understand this and somehow, at some point that kid might attempt suicide or might trying to run away from his/her house and this is where we need to actually think and seriously to understand how to deal with it.
