Kinds of violences we do against elders

We look silently at the elders who live around us and see the attitude of ourselves and our children to these elders.

Ignore: Carelessness in food and drink and their diet. To delay bringing in the new teeths, glasses, hearing device, when the stick is damaged. Not to take care of clothes and body hygiene. Lapse sins and medicines taken to the doctor.

Not cleaning dry heels, not taking care of skin and hair cleansing,leaving the room alone for a long time.

Physically: If they have difficulty getting up and walking, do not manage a helper for them, avoid ingratiating themselves as long as they can.

Sometimes when clothes are damaged, mention it in front of everyone, or mention it to them again and again.To put high TV during their rest hours and not to forbid children from making noise.

Financially: Don't pay to spend on transactions, needs, and comforts.To share their property and to mention the parts in their lives.

Don't answer them for money where they came, where they went.Take all the household's seasonal clothes and shoes and forget them. Eid, everyone going shopping on wedding occasions, leaving them.

Destruction of fundamental rights:Not giving time.Peace be upon you, and after giving money, you have to understand that the truth is given. Organizing advice from all sensible people but not involving parents to make their own decisions, not to let them do their will.

To respond with a loud voice or a harsh tone. Not giving your children opportunities to be close to their maternal grandparents, grandparents, and not encouraging them to do small thingsIt is possible that when the elders themselves were young, they just took money with the children and had a relationship with the money. You have not made any emotional connection with childhood.

But now they are weak. We don't put them to the test, old age is a test on our own. The effort is to consider them as important members of the household and to keep a special part of their wealth, time, and love. We who can speak in front of four servants today, present ourselves in a settled manner, they have a hand behind all this, their prayers.

Sit next to them, ask for a recent account, listen to their stories again and again, seek advice from them, call them when they are away. If possible, connect online with the Quran, etc. If it is not possible to take them along in view of their health on picnics etc., take a walk out separately.

Explain technology like phone apps etc. with patience. Try to be kind to them just for the sake of Allah.