Common mistakes singles make in a relationship (part 3)

Hello my happy readers in here, just as I promised, this is the third part of 'common mistakes singles make in a relationship'. If you are just coming across something like this for the first time, please do well to visit my wall for the part 1 and part 2.

Hope you understand my points and read meaning to it as always.

Indecision

Many of the singles of these days cannot authentically decide what they want. Rather if you ask them, they will tell you "we are waiting for God", "anyone that comes". My friend, any one is equal to no one. You have to decide the kind of lady and young man you spend your life time with. You have to decide wether fat, slim, tall, short or average, and not anyone that comes your way because, having a goal is the beginning of the journey. You can not have a successful thought without having a vision because what you see is what you get, and whatever you cannot imagine, you cannot manage. For you to be successful in your relationship you must imagine first the kind of man or woman you nee, not another person to point your spouse for you. Some people allow their father, mother or uncle to decide who should be their partner. You are progressing in error. Some even allow their religious leaders or heads to decide who should be the right person for them. The project and prophetess can only speak. The action is yours. Be careful and decide what you want.

Over Reflection

By over Reflection, I mean the alarming rate of disappointment that occur in these days' relationship. Relationship of these days is built on the foundation of lies. Girls lie to guys, guys lie to girls, and they promise what they can not fufil. They deciever each others and break each other's hearts. Instead of you to break out of the broken relationship you are busy mourning, reflecting how you started, the kind of love you used to give each other, how you spend your money, your time and energy before you got him or her. Because of this simple reason you are killing yourself for what is not existing, this is timidity.

This unavailable person has pushed you into psycho emotional trauma. You can no longer see any man, or lady as the alternative. Because of that, you are rejecting every available person that makes offer to you. My friend, because one door is closed does not mean another bright way will it open, but if you close the new door against yourself, you do that to your own detriment. Look at yourself twice; you will not remain young forever. That is why someone says your two eyes were planted in your front head so that you don't over reflect about the disappointments failure, frustration and rejection of the past, but looking ahead for success. If not, one eye ball could have been planted at the back at least, for security reasons.

Over Reflection about the past simply means, you are attached to the person in flesh and in spirit. You are interested in waiting whether he or she will come back to you again. While you are still waiting, don't you think you are waisting your time? My friend forget about the past and move ahead, You will surely one that is better than that last one, because the later rain shall be better than the former.

Idleness (Lack of entrepreneur)

Entrepreneurship as one of the points that waste your time;talks about how you will be economically empowered, that is identifying an opportunity either business, jobs career, craft etc and take advantage of it. There are people that strive to make the difference by creating working atmosphere to improve their standard of living and their relationship on the basis of self reliance by engaging different types of investment opportunities that will add value to their life. May be it is because you are idle that people are running away. No man or woman will marry a liability or want to connect themselves to that kind of person. So if you want to be noticed in the kingdom of relationship, engage yourself economically and see whether you will still be believing in God for partner.

There is a popular saying that an idle man is devil workshop. Nobody will love to dine and wine with devil, so staying at home every day and claiming to be in love is a bad practice.

While you are waiting to have job worth of 100 thousand before you start working, you can start something. Someone says the only technique you need to be economically empowered is the ability to negotiate and sell anything. So start something and be noticed. Gone are the days when people get married believing God for what to eat; and gone are the days when people marry to become full-time house wives. What I'm saying is that, the economic situation in most countries today demands individual contributions to stabilize the relationship. Be careful, don't be a psychological reactor. As a single, you have all the opportunities to do something great for sustainability.

Should I say this has brought us to the end of the thread? No! I might point out some of these bullets for singles in my subsequent posts. Probably, it won't be tittled part 4. But if you have enjoyed part1, 2 and 3 so far, then watch out for my next articles. Also, feel free to comment what you have learnt so far, which of the mistakes you have made in the past, currently making, or the ones you would like mostly to avoid below in the comment box.

In life, we all make mistakes but the exceptionality lies in the power to take corrections and become better.

Good day friends