Can you be friend with your ex?

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I would say no in the first place. Not after you just breakup, and immediately become "friend". You need some time to heal. You need to neutralize your feelings. Being friends with your ex immediately after breakup is just a form of manipulation.

How can you be friend with someone you once shared the same feelings and strong love affair? It won't work that way. Trust me, you will still hold on to them. You're not letting them go, you just use the "friendship" as an excuse.

Ex "friendship" will complicate your life. Your unresolved romantic desire will give negative outcomes. Honestly it's hard to set up a boundary. You'll just experience new kind of pain.

A pain of not being able to be with someone you love, but having them around at the same time.

You can't lie to your heart, everytime you stay in touch with your ex, all sorts of thoughts and memories will bring back up, somehow put you into an emotional state that allowing yourself to feel a vague connection, experiencing a new level of pain.

Do you think you can handle a friendship which separated from your previous relationship?

This kind of friendship could be more toxic than the toxic relationship itself.

You need to heal in the first place. Take a break. Clear your mind, accept that your relationship is over. Acceptance is a key. Cut off your connection with your ex, from every damn way.

Until, the pain can no longer tear you up. Until it doesn't hurt anymore.

Sometimes, to love is to let go. And it is healthier to let the "friendship" go as well. It hurts, but it will be okay.

You will be okay.

Thanks for reading 💟

Godbless ❤️❤️

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There is a saying that if your ex becomes your friend, it's either you guys never really loved each other before, maybe it was just one person who really love the other, or you both are still in love with each other. Being friends with your ex is like adding salt to your wounds especially if your ex starts dating. Though it's possible to still be friends, it all depends on the individual and if he or she is able to handle it. Like I ended a relationship this year I was willing to still be friends with her but she cut of all forms of connection with me.

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