Can love be something you can just choose?
I mean, can’t we just choose somebody who we think will not hurt us, who we think will love us unconditionally, someone who we can rely to and trust without worrying she will hurt you or even cheat on you. I think that will be easier, I think choosing the person who we think could love us better is easier than choosing someone who doesn’t even give us attention.
That’s the thing about us, humans, we tend to choose the person who doesn’t even care, who doesn’t even look at us, and what more is that person doesn’t even feel the same way. Isn’t it unfair? I don’t know if that is even the right word. I guess loving someone doesn’t always mean it has to be mutual. I guess some of us choose the longer route and that includes pain, unrequited love, one sided feelings and devastation.
If only we can choose the one we love, if only we could make our lives easier by choosing someone who loves us more, if only the person we love loves us back, if only life could make its way to us and tell us who to love without feeling pained. If only.
Love comes in ways we do not expect or even understand, it would be really easy to go for the one that would never hurt us but then again how can you be so sure you won't get hurt from that choice? Like someone once said, we don't get to choose when and who to fall in love with, it choose us irrespective of if we are prepared or not, or if the love is mutual or not. Love is a beautiful that, yet painful at the same time, but that does not mean we should stop loving, when rejected or hurt, it's a lesson to grow not the end of love.