"Always speak the truth." This is what we have been taught since childhood. Even from textbooks to scriptures, there is a special emphasis on truthfulness everywhere. But even then, almost every human being begins to live with more or less lies before they become adults.
Many have developed the bad habit of lying since childhood. As we saw the childish spread - Johnny is being asked by his father if he has eaten sugar. At first Johnny refuses, but his lie is caught. In this way, most children get caught up in the world of lies by denying the truth about minor issues. And as the days go by, their tendency to lie continues to grow.
And the shocking fact is that about 70 percent of a person's lies remain unmarked, unless the person is a world-renowned figure like Donald Trump. Poor Donald Trump's fate is very bad, so everything he says in public every day is judged and analyzed. And in the 628 days since he took office as US president, he has publicly told the 10,000th lie. In other words, he has told an average of 12 lies every day.
But as I said, since you are not Donald Trump, you are less likely to be caught lying. And if you are a very ordinary person, then no one will be able to catch 4 out of every 5 lies. Even a polygraph or lie detector has a 75 to 80 percent chance of catching a lie. So, in this world, it is very possible to get away with lying.
But now think of the other side of the coin. Maybe you never lie, but you have to lie to others. You may be too simple-minded, or you like to trust people. And on that occasion many may deceive you into lying. In this way you have to cheat or become a fool in your daily life.
Have you ever wondered how it is possible to catch a liar? "Aren't you lying?" There will be no special benefit by asking such questions. Because, very few people have the honest courage to admit lies with their own mouths. Rather, it is possible to protect oneself from the clutches of liars if one is a little more aware of oneself. Let's take a look at the effective steps to identify a liar or to know if someone is telling the truth or not.
Start with neutral or seemingly innocent questions:
The first step in catching a person telling the truth or lying is to ask him a very basic, simple question. Maybe it's about today's weather, what he ate rice with at noon, or what he plans to do in the evening. In other words, he has to ask questions that he does not have to resort to lies to answer, in general he can answer. And when he gives the answers, there are some things to keep in mind - is he moving? Is he looking around again and again? Removing or lowering your eyes from the position you are looking at? This way you can learn about his general conversational style.
Now ask sensitive questions:
Once you know how to answer innocent questions, slowly enter the list of sensitive questions. Ask him out well if he is no longer absorbed in the connection. Ask him out well if he is no longer absorbed in the connection. And in answering these questions, pay special attention to his gestures, verbal expressions, eye movements, syntax, etc. Because, no matter what he says or does not say in answer to these questions, since he has to consciously determine the answer or arrange the words in his mind, some changes will be observed in him very naturally. Now check, what exactly has changed in the answer to these uncomfortable questions along with the answer to the general question. Needless to say, these changes can also be seen in the case of lying. The verification is complete, now start the main conversation with him.
Notice the gestures:
When lying, a person subconsciously changes some gestures. As he is seen to be wrapped up. Through this he wants to be relatively less noticed. Many start twisting the body again, trying to hide their fingers in discomfort. Many are also seen shrugging their shoulders. If at some point in a normal conversation someone is suddenly seen doing these things, it can be assumed that he is not comfortable saying the words, or is lying outright.
Keep an eye out for subtle verbal expressions:
There must be some change in a person's verbal expression when he lies. But those who are good at lying can lie even if they keep their mouths normal. Even then, some subtle changes are forced to come into its expression. For example: some people's face color is false large pink color during saliva. Someone's nose is shaking very slowly again. Someone bites their lips again, sweats, or opens and closes their eyelids quickly. When a person lies, his brain becomes more active, and these changes in verbal expression are a sign of that busyness of the brain
Moreover, there is a deep connection between laughter and lying. A person may be generally very cheerful. But when he lies, he may forget to smile for a while. It may also be that he may increase the amount of laughter to cover up the lie. Thus, true or false can be verified from less smile or more smil
Pay attention to the tone of voice, tone of voice, and sentence structure:
Since you have a general conversation before coming to the relevant topic, you should be able to catch any sudden change in his voice. When a person lies, he often changes his tone of voice and speech. Some speak faster than before, while others speak slowly. The tone of voice is either stronger than before, or weaker
Moreover, when lying, the structure of the sentence becomes much more complicated than before. Earlier, he might have finished a sentence in three or four words. But now he is making a very large and complex sentence by combining many small phrases, and adding 'if', 'but', 'more' etc. to that sentence. This is because speaking the truth does not put too much pressure on the human brain. He begins to say what he already knows. But when he lies, he has to recreate the whole thing. A lot of things keep popping up in his head, and he wants to talk about it all at onc
It may be that he repeats the same thing over and over again to establish his own lies as true. This is because he himself is not sure if lying can make you believe it. So he kept saying the same thing over and over again to be sure of himself, and each time he seemed to be more desperate to establish the lie in hi
See if he stopped talking about himself:
When a person speaks the truth, his narration is very fluent, and if he is present in the narrated event, he goes beyond the main context and speaks differently about himself or his feelings. This is because of man's self-love or self-absorption, which is why he naturally wants to involve himself with everything. But when he lies, he has to be very careful. He may change the situation as he sees fit, but it is not easy to change the memory of his feelings. In doing so, there is a risk of saying something unfounded. So the liar completely excludes himself from his description. Then the good masculine or subjective pronouns like 'I', 'me', 'mine' etc. are not used in his words as before
Another belief of psychologists is that when a person lies about something, he has a strange tendency to keep himself away from it. That's why he doesn't want to mention anything about himself when he lies.
Ask the detail:
It would not be right to assume that the above symptoms of lying are present in someone who is lying. Because these symptoms can occur in a person for any other reason. At first, he may not be lying, just feeling uncomfortable. Second, for some other personal reason, these changes may come suddenly in him. So the last and most effective way to be sure is to ask him the details
A person can first tell a fabricated lie like himself. But he has to go through a lot to explain the details. You can ask him questions that are completely irrelevant or very insignificant, which he may not have answered beforehand. If he suddenly goes to make up his answer.
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