What is love without pain, sacrifice and forgiveness?

What is love without pain, sacrifice and forgiveness? This is the question you really have to ponder in your heart as you go through my article today. I hope you are having a wonderful day?

Yes, you may be wondering why I started my article in this way, of a truth, I am going through a tough time in my love life at the moment, and I am sharing my personal thought and opinion in this article for you to go through and see if there is any thing you can learn from it.

many of you have gone through a lot of misunderstanding, quarrel, disagreements and even fight, and you allow yourselves to be engulfed with so much hatred, unforgiven spirit, and sadness towards your partner. You throw away all the efforts and struggles you too passed through together all because of one or two ill-treatments you received from your loved ones during your journey together.

You hold your ground not to forgive and forget the wrong doings from your partner maybe because you feel he or she will not stop hurting you if you give him or her another chance in your life, because of that you lock your heart and swore never to continue with him or her in the relationship. Even when the person that hurt you have really felt sorry and very remorseful for his or her ill-treatments towards you and ever ready to make amends and correct his or her mistakes, yet you still refuse to let go of the past and try not to give another chance to make it work again. But have you ever asked yourself this sincere questions;

Ever since we have been together in this relationship, have I been a perfect person in this relationship?

Haven't I ever offended my partner before or even several times?

Have I been of 100 percent good character and behaviour to my partner ever since we have been together?

If you can be able to ask yourself these sincere questions, you would agree with me that holding unto hurt you get from your partner for long should not be a good step in the right direction. Quitting your relationship is not a best option either.

When we feel in our hearts that we have the right to switch on and off in our relationship in any little misunderstanding or quarrel we may have with our partner without first considering the emotional trauma we are making our partner pass through during those moments of our quarrels, we forget the essence of being in love, we forget the actual meaning of love which are pain sacrifice and forgiveness, we forget the wonderful moments we have had in the past all because we allowed the challenges and our trial moments to override the love we supposed to hold higher, we allow anger and sadness of heart to delete the beautiful pictures we have painted together in our hearts during the time we were together, we allow ourselves to destroy that foundation that took us many months even years under the rain and under the sun to build all because of little misunderstanding that we can actually correct if we allowed our love to be above our challenges.

If truly we agreed that we are Christians, and our relationship is build on the foundation of true love, we should always remember what Jesus Christ said about forgiveness; "Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you." If Christ could reply to Peter that came up and said to him, "Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? As many as seven times?" Jesus said to him, "I do not say to you seven times, but seventy times seven. ("Matthew 18:21, 22.). If Christ could tell Peter to forgive seventy times seven, why then do you hold on to your hurt that long towards your partner?. One thing I believe is whether we are in love or not, being hurt each passing day of our lives is inevitable, whether from people you love or from other other people you do not love, but one important question we need to ask ourselves is whether we trust each other enough to let go of our hurts and mistakes by forgiving and forgetting what ever hurt we may have gotten from our loved one?

If you can not learn to sacrifice a chance to make your relationship work even when he or she offends you, when your partner feels remorseful of it and ever ready to make amends, then know it that you really don't understand the meaning of true love.

Remember, true love endures forever, and if you can not learn to endure, then you have not understood what it means to love.

Remember, true love counts no error. Since we are imperfect beings, when we say we truly love each other, we should always remember that we are not perfect and so therefore, there must be mistakes and errors on the way, but our love will always supersede if we truly say we have true love for one another.

Remember, to love is to sacrifice. If you truly want to understand the actual meaning of love, take a leaf from the story of jack and rose in the true life story titled the titanic, the story of St. Valentine, the 14th February of every year we celebrate as lover's day and the ultimate sacrifice Christ paid on the cross of Calvary for me and you for the Christians.

If you are abandoning your relationship just because you feel hurt by the way your partner talked to you, or with the way your partner reacted towards you verbally during discussion, argument, misunderstanding or quarrel countless times, always bear this in mind that the next person you are running into his or her arms to start a new relationship with will one day if not now repeat the same way your former partner did during misunderstanding or quarrel with you or even worst reason being that he or she is an imperfect being just like your former partner.

If your partner has never physically abused or assaulted you for a day even when you give him or her the reasons to during a fight or misunderstanding, please do all you can to hold on to your relationship with such partner. You may not really be lucky when you leave your relationship to start another one.

Finally, don't hold on to the past grudge caused by your partner in your heart, learn to grow in true love and sacrifice, for to love is sacrifice, to sacrifice is pain, to live out of pain is to forgive and to forgive is to live happily after.

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