What does the ring really validates?

Well, many have really got confused and  asked this question directly or indirectly to themselves, to their partners and even to friends and family to find out the true answer to this question, a lot have also gone out of their ways to make some researches to really find answers to this question of the heart "What does the ring really validates?"

Disclaimer: please this article is not to discourage any person who wants to walk away from an unhealthy relationship nor from a relationship he or she does not find happiness in, rather it's meant to inform us about relationship and how people value engagement/wedding ring, I am not a professional on love and relationship cases. I write based on my personal opinions, observations and experience.

Most relationships that involves two persons who really love themselves and  have expectations, hopes, dreams and aspirations together to achieve in future have questioned and doubted their relationship and where it's heading because of these particular topic.

In this topic that I am sharing with you, the ring I am talking about can be engagement ring or wedding ring as case maybe. So before I proceed further, I would love to define what an engagement ring and wedding ring are so as to bring your attention and understanding more closely to the context of this topic that I am about to share with you.

What is an Engagement Ring?

According to Wikipedia, an engagement ring is a ring indicating that the person wearing it is engaged to be married, especially in Western cultures.

What is a Wedding ring?

Also according to Wikipedia, a wedding ring or wedding band is a finger ring that indicates that its wearer is married.

Now having defined the meaning of engagement and wedding ring for you to understand the type of ring am about to discuss in my context, some young people most especially ladies who are seriously In-love with their spouse have believed that when their spouse engages them with a ring on their finger it means that the man is seriously in love with them as well and wants to take the relationship to next level.

On the other hand, when a young man who finds himself attracted to a lady and eventually fell in love with her and believes in his heart that truly if he proposes with a ring to his spouse, and once she accepts his ring that means she is truly In-love with him and wants to marry him.

The rate at which people value this ring in a relationship without first finding the true feeling of love they claim to have and share with each other is what seem confusing to me. I have heard and seen a lot of young ladies threatening to break-up and leave their spouse simply because he refused to engage them with a ring.

In some cases some ladies after being in a relationship for some years with  their spouses without seeing the man walking up to them to propose with a ring, will turn around to propose to the young man instead with a ring and I ask, What does the ring really validates?

Because of desperation coming from the both parties, the person who seem so desperate can be deceived by the other party with an engagement ring just to achieve his or her selfish desires and afterwards disappoints the person involved. We can see this particular case happen almost everyday in our daily lives.

A lot of people you see in relationship today pretends to be in love with their spouse just because of what they are gaining and achieving as they are with their spouse but in the dept of their hearts they have uterior motives and another plan that may not involve their spouse rather with another in near future.

Having a ring on your hand maybe an engagement ring does not necessarily  guarantee utmost love, faithfulness, fidelity, loyalty and respect from your spouse.

I believe one should first try and understand the heart of his or her spouse and the spouse intentions towards their relationship rather than clamouring for the ring as a final consolation in a relationship.

It makes more sense and meaning when you take it easy with your spouse and walk in love with your partner, instead of rushing him or her to propose or accept your ring, why not make out time to really study your spouse, know your spouse and do those things that will make him or her accept to be with you from their inner most heart and want to grow old together with you in marriage of a life time instead of rushing or putting unnecessary pressure on him or her.

Remember this, Yes! It's only when you allow the love that comes from within to flow and connect to each others heart, having passed through all challenges together, having known your strength and weakness of each other and finally accepts to be together in love and marriage, then you can go ahead to take your relationship to the next level.

The day you and him puts on the wedding bands, then you know that one ring validates everything.............

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