Please I just switched, I didn't cheat on you.

Hello everyone, I hope you all are doing great! Well, My today's article is going to be lengthy and elaborate. I want to start today's article with what most of us especially the married ones have been witnessing and experiencing in their various relationships around the world in recent time. I want to first apologize to you the singles reading this article before I proceed further, if I didn't lay much emphasis on you the singles who are still dating and hoping to settle down in no distant time in this article, I am sorry, but my utmost intention is not to wave you the singles amongst us aside, but to use this today's post on this platform to point out most of the common problems that may be so dangerous if allowed to linger more in a marriage relationship, also for the singles to learn from it and find a way to stay away from these type of unhealthy relationship threats before they finally get married with their spouses/ partners and finally to educate us on relationship, personal development and management, personal relationship and the best communicative approach with your partner in order to have a successful relationship experience and peace of mind.

You may have watched series of movies, read a lot of relationship stories and even witnessed some horrible true life stories that may have happened around your local area where people that were so In-love with each other fall apart and marriages shattered without any remedy or hope of coming back to rebuild again.

You may begin to wonder what really could have been the reason why this awesome and beautiful marriage relationship collapsed even after so much efforts and huddles they two may have gone through to build their marriage together up to this level of their breakup. But I tell you, the reason is not far fetched from these little, common and minor mistakes people take for granted in their marriage relationships with their partners. These mistakes includes;

Poor communication between the both parties in a marriage relationship.

Too much complain and nagging at all times.

Taking your partner's sexual feelings for granted.

Not paying attention to your partner's behavioural attitude.

Always having this entitlement mentality towards your partner.

Always being right at all times, never accepting that you are wrong or at fault and try to say sorry.

Always being a fault finder during arguments and discussions.

Always being on the defensive mood each time you are having an issue with your partner.

Never ready to let go of the past wrongs and ill-treatments from your partner.

Always believing that everything must be done in your own way, never ready to give room for your partner's opinion and ideas to be tried.

These and many more are the common problems that have befallen most people in their marriage relationships and because they never saw it on time, it took another level and ate deep in their marriage foundation and before they could understand what was going on, their marriage lost it's taste and everything collapsed.

Let me explain all these common mistakes mentioned above so that you will have an in-depth knowledge about it and advise yourself better.

1. POOR COMMUNICATION BETWEEN THE BOTH PARTIES IN A MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP.

This is one of the common mistakes that a lot of people make and take for granted in their marriage relationship with their partners. A situation where you find it difficult to express your mind and feelings to your partner, you find it so hard to have a healthy discussion each time you are with your partner, and you don't make out time to really communicate well with your partner maybe because of how busy you find yourself with your daily job and when you come back at night, it will be so difficult for you to make out time to discuss your day's activities with your partner, maybe because you came back tired or hard a long day at work with so much office troubles and before you know it, gradually you start losing communication desire with your partner and this starts changing the peace and harmony you once had with your partner thereby giving room for gap in your communication relationship with your partner.

2. TOO MUCH COMPLAIN AND NAGGING AT ALL TIMES.

This is a situation that can disrupt the peace and love in a marriage relationship. it starts in a gradual process and escalate to a level where one can not contain it any longer. When your partner always complain and nag at every little issue that may arise in your relationship instead of creating an avenue where a proper information can be passed to your partner and also be understood in love. Remember, nothing kills feelings faster than nagging and excessive complain coming from either partners. Nothing your partner does makes sense or meaning to you, a little discussion that may end in peace can be turned into a fight just because one person always like to drag unnecessary issues and misunderstand point at any given opportunity during discussions.

3. TAKING YOUR PARTNER'S SEXUAL FEELINGS FOR GRANTED.

Yes! This also is a common mistake partners in marriage make and take for granted, In a situation where you are used to your partner, you sleep on the same bed and do all manner of things together and forget to always ignite your sexual feelings and make it ever stable and strong to always ready to fulfil your sexual responsibilities to your partner is a very huge mistake if allowed to linger further. When ever your partner wants to feel you sexually, you make excuses and find a way to talk out his or her feelings from having sex with you each time you are together. You don't feel to have sex with your partner any longer because you think having sex always can make you worn out and because of that, you say no to him or her. You may not know that your actions and rejections may be pushing your partner away from you and before you know it, the relationship starts having issues.

4. NOT PAYING ATTENTION TO YOUR PARTNER'S BEHAVIOURAL ATTITUDE.

You may not notice your partner's emotional feelings and you do not care to even know, because you had one misunderstanding with your partner in the night and left for work in the morning of the next day without trying to settle the problem, and becuase of that, you feel less concern to pay attention to your partner's body gesture, facial expression and attitudes to know what he or she is going through, and before you know what is going on, the marriage foundation starts to shake and if care is not taken, may collapse.

5. ALWAYS HAVING THIS ENTITLEMENT MENTALITY TOWARDS YOUR PARTNER.

Entitlement mentality has really caused more harm than good in so many marriages, and this is one of the common mistakes partners do that really affect their relationship big time. A situation where you are always expecting this and that from your partner, having the feeling that your partner supposed to do this for you and do that for you, it's his or her duty to take this responsibility towards you and you forget and refuse to help your partner out when you have the opportunity to. When such lifestyle is exhibited by one of the partners in a marriage relationship, definitely the marriage is heading to a crash in no distance time.

6. ALWAYS BEING RIGHT AT ALL TIMES, NEVER ACCEPTING THAT YOU ARE WRONG OR AT FAULT AND TRY TO SAY SORRY.

Most people find it so difficult to accept that they are wrong during misunderstanding or quarrel, they feel it's always in their position to be right always, and you are the one that is always wrong, they don't ever believe that they can be at fault during an argument. When you find such person as a partner, definitely you are in for a serious problem in your relationship. To accept their wrong doings and say sorry is so difficult for them to say with their mouth. They rather allow things get bad than accepting that they are wrong or at fault.

7. ALWAYS BEING A FAULT FINDER DURING ARGUMENTS AND DISCUSSIONS.

Being with that type of person that always find fault in any little thing you do at any given time is a crazy situation one can not wish to experience, if you find yourself with such person in a relationship, you will be so afraid to make a statement or express yourself during discussion, you will find it difficult to lay complain of what you noticed around that you think is not supposed to be, all becuase you are afraid your partner will find a fault and hold that against you. Yes, it's a common mistake that destroys a relationship if not handled well.

8. ALWAYS BEING ON THE DEFENSIVE MOOD EACH TIME YOU ARE HAVING A TALK WITH YOUR PARTNER.

When you are in a situation where your partner always find it easy to defend him or herself even when he or she seems guilty of her action and behaviours, and instead, you partner tries to turn the situation around to fall against you in order to make you feel confused and unbalanced to take your stand in the talk you are having with him or her is another common mistake that can shift the foundation of your relationship to the angle of collapse if care is not taken.

9. NEVER READY TO LET GO OF THE PAST WRONGS AND ILL-TREATMENTS FROM YOUR PARTNER.

This is another common mistake that will shatter the foundation of a marriage relationship if one does not watch it closely. Having an unforgiven spirit and a spirit of not letting go when you are offended by your partner even when your partner sincerely and remorsefully apologies and says he or she is sorry is a serious issue for concern. When your partner always hold on to the past and remember the past hurt each time you offend him or her without trying to drop the past and let go of it so that new life experiences can be felt in your relationship is really a very big challenge one need to find way to handle, but always remember, human being is an imperfect being and is bound to make mistakes always.

10. ALWAYS BELIEVING THAT EVERYTHING MUST BE DONE IN YOUR OWN WAY, NEVER READY TO GIVE ROOM FOR YOUR PARTNER'S OPINIONS AND IDEAS TO BE TRIED.

When you are always standing on your own decisions and opinions and forcing it down on your partner to always follow without giving room for your partner to bring in their own ideas and opinions to be tried is really one common mistake a lot of people make in the course of their journey in marriage relationship with their partners. You always dictate what happens in your relationship and always make decisions without caring if it's affecting your partner in a negative way or not, all you are after is for you to see that your orders are been carried to the latter. When such happens, definitely you are pushing your relationship to a point of collapse and breakup.

In conclusion, when you check all these common mistakes I explained in this article, you will understand with me that one can not have a good relationship experience if these mistakes are allowed to live with them as partners in a marriage relationship. Why most people tend to look outside their marriage is not to find another woman or man they can cheat with since they are not getting what they are looking for from their partners, rather they look for people they can switch their feelings and emotions to where they can have peace of mind, communicate well, feel free with and be happy. I tell you this, they may not have sexual relationship with these people they switch feelings to, but if the situation they are getting from their partners get more worse by the day without any positive result or change, they may end up in marriage with the next person they have switched their feelings and emotions to and sadly end their marriage affair with their former partner.

No matter what you are doing, do not allow these common mistakes to change the peace and harmony you once had in your relationship. You can prevent this statement "Please I just switched, I didn't cheat on you!" from coming out of your partner's mouth If only you do your best to take corrections and avoid these common mistakes from happening in your marriage relationship with your partner.

Please my single men and ladies, you can also learn from this to make it right in your married life with that right person in future. I wish you well, a successful and beautiful married life experience with your partner.

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