Only the sufferer can define the meaning of human sufferings.

Having an experience over something as a human is a personal thing, whether you are tall, short, black or white, experiences we have in life comes to us differently for a purpose. Whether the experience comes in bad or good form, it's the person who finds himself or herself in it can explain more better the lesson he learnt from it and can as well say something about it. This is just the truth, you can not attest to the feeling of something when you know you have no business with such thing. You can not say and be sure of something you know nothing about. Most people have seen life and it's experience in an awkward way while some have felt and experience life in the opposite way. Whether you see life and experiences of life in your different ways, you can not conclude on any issue or situation when you have not actually been inside it and have a taste of it yourself.

How can you say you know what suffering is all about when all your life you have been living like a prince and a princess in your beautiful castles and mansions?.

How will you know what other people are passing through when you have everything you need around you at your beck and call?

How can you know the amount of pain that mother that lost her baby during child birth is passing through when you have not had the opportunity and the ability to be pregnant and carry a baby in your womb for nine months for once?

How can you say you know how he or she feels for not eating all through the day when you have food and water to eat and drink on your table any time you want to?

How can you feel the pain and agony some people are passing through in their various countries because of the unfavorable government policies and laws when in your own country everything is moving well and the system is working for everybody in your own country?

How would you know the plight of some people in Somalia who are going through draught, starvation, scarcity of food and water when you are enjoying the favourable weather and climate condition in your country?

How can you know the level of suffering the people of Ukraine and their government are going through since the war started in Ukraine when you are in your own country enjoying the  peace and harmony your country is giving you at the moment?

How can you know the feeling of what others are passing through in their marriages and relationships when you have not fallen in love for one day and being in a relationship with someone all through your life?

How can you say you know the type of pain he is currently passing through from the injuries he sustained as a result of the car accident he had while on hid way to work, when you have not even had an scratch on your body from any accident for one day?

How can you judge a book by it's cover when you have not even had the chance or the opportunity to go through the book and know the content of the book itself? This particular case is what we see every day of our lives as humans, when you have not been in a situations and have a feel of it to know what it's all about, instead you go about the whole place saying and describing what you know nothing about. You go about spreading false and bad news about people, debasing people's characters and personalities.

When you are not in someone's shoe, you can not actually give account of how much pain the person wearing the shoe is passing through, you can not understand the level of emotional challenges and troubles the person is passing through at that moment, in as much as you are close to the person, you can not know exactly what they are going through if you don't ask questions and try to hear and know what exactly is going on in their lives.

That's why you have to always find a way to play a major role in the life of your friends, families and that person you care much about.

In as much we are different in so many aspects as human beings, we can not throw away our hearts and minds from trying to be our brother's keeper at all cost. Remember we live by lifting others through our show of care and concern when you notice that the next person sitting by your side is not actually doing fine, you have to learn to look beyond the physical appearance of people around and gather the courage to ask them questions to know what is actually going on in their lives.

Do not feel less concern about other people's sufferings, try and show them that you are with them even in their trial times. It goes a long way in changing the story narrative the feeling of suffering might have written in their hearts for so long.

Thank you so much and have a great weekend. Rafd9828 loves you🙏