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Now to the main business of the day, have you wondered why most men if not all have this challenge of being lonely when they grow old in their marriages even when they have children? Have you also thought about why mothers command so much love and attention when they grow old from their children more than the men? I know your response to these questions will surely be because of mother's love and that mother and child connection from child birth. Yes you may be right if you think and say so, but I want to give you another factor that may also interest you that contributes to the reason why men are not really seen with these type of love, attraction and connection with their children when they grow old more than the mothers.
These other factors takes stand in these forms because most men in marriages and families have failed to put listening ear and attention to these important things during the time and period they raise their children as parents. A lot of men in this life have really died not because they have reached their time but because of the treatment they receive from the children they brought to the world, saw them grow and became adult in life, some are yet to be taken care of, while some have lost hope and faced with pains and regrets because of the way their children have treated them in their old age.
Because of the need to provide funds for the need of the family by men as the head of the house, they have neglected that fatherly role of attention, care and show of love that they supposed to play in the life of their children, leaving the house so early in the morning when the kids are still on the bed sleeping, not coming back home in time from work, paying less attention to the needs of the kids because you expect the mother to take the responsibility of taking care the kids since you see yourself as the head and the one providing for the family, not trying to address and solve little problems your kids may bring to you as their father rather you direct them to go and meet their mother to help them in getting the problems solved, always showing the kids that their mother is there to always attend to their immediate needs, quarrelling and abusing your wife Infront of your kids and when such happens you see the children running to their mother to console her when she is crying, etc.
I tell you this, All of these things mentioned above have really brought neglect from the children towards their fathers when they grow old. The mind and brain of children are so easily manipulated through what they see and and even hear, children learn and retain some memories of what they saw during the time and period they were growing. Most men don't know that when they stay in front of their children to yell, abuse and quarrel their wife, they kids may not understand the actual purpose of the shout and quarrel, rather they will understand it that you are maltreating their mother and this goes straight and stores in their heart and mind, when they grow tomorrow and become adult they will use that to treat and deal with their father when they get old.
Due to not having plenty of time because of work, when the children demand for their school fees to be paid, because the man in the family may not have enough time to wait for the kids to wake, he decides to drop the school fee with their mother and goes to work, when the mother goes to the children's school to make the payment, the class teacher may give the child a wrong information about seeing the mother coming to school to pay up the school fees, and this will surely go straight to the child's retentive memory to store. At times the mother forgets to tell the child about the person that brought the money for the payment. Remember children records fast what they see and hear.
A lot of men have shifted their responsibilities to the hands of their wives, instead of using their hands to get the items for their family, rather they give the money to their wives for the buying of children's wears and other necessary items that the children may need from the father. This has been the very mistake most men do unconsciously without knowing that it will affect them negatively in future when they get old. Because the kids have stored in their memory the fact that they usually see their mother getting all the stuffs they need and their father a busy man, they will channel all their love to their mother.
What will it take you to be that loving father to your family? Why won't you put your family first in your plans and be there to support them with your presence and any other possible way you can? You can be active the same way your wife is to your children in the family, don't always give excuses to your family to stay away from them and your responsibility as the head of the house.
You may not know the effect of excuses and your absence to your children's life until you get old then you will feel and see the result of your absence in the lives of your children when they were small.
I implore you now to change that absent minded attitude and neglect you give to your children and your family because of trying to make money for your family, you can still be that loving and caring Father and also that father that goes out to find what his family will eat and have better life. No amount of money you have today that will cover the love you may get from your loved one when you get old and can't do anything for yourself anymore.
Change that mindset now and be active in the raising of your children now that they are small because when you do that now, you will surely be happy and be taken careful when you grow old tomorrow.
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