Be more of you, and less of them.

The world we live in is full of so many life experiences and stories of how people have lived their lives just to please other people instead of pleasing themselves. Have you ever lived your life just for a moment to please others and act in the dictates of others rather than being your self? I know If I direct this question to you my friend reading this article right now, I know that if you are sincere to yourself you will acknowledge that you have one way or the other lived such life. I have been there and I know how the feelings can be when you find yourself in such situation. But the truth remains that when you live in such circle of lifestyle, you will not really have that true satisfaction of heart and joy ever until you change your pattern of living life.

Some of the life styles people live today are all borrowed, and sometimes they live such life style all in a bit to measure up with other people who live around them. By so doing, they put themselves in bad state of mind and conditions all because they tried to live their lives on others dictates.

Well, let me bring it down to our daily life experiences, the one major lifestyle mistake one will ever make is to start living a life of another person dictates when you have become of age to handle your own life. Not believing in yourself that you have all it takes to make a difference and change your own world, feeling less of a man or woman and putting your hope on people to walk you through your fears and challenges are the worst mistake you will ever make as a person during your journey of life as a human. Any little shake in your life turns your attention to running back to people for assistance and guidance instead of facing your fears squarely, you throw away your own abilities to face your battle and being afraid to provide solutions by yourself to solve your challenges.

Often times in your relationship with your spouse, because you were talked down during a  misunderstanding or fight you had with your spouse, and to prove a point to your spouse you begin to hate him or her and start living a life you were not known for just to make your partner feel bad. You begin to emotionally torture yourself and your spouse all in bit to show your grievances to him or her. Don't you know that by trying to harbour grudge and pain of hurt in your heart and waiting for the right  moment to send back the same hurt you received from your spouse to him or her, to make  your spouse feel the same pain and hurt you have been keeping at heart is not the right way of living a healthy life and having a successful relationship with your spouse?

In your families where all you do as a father, mother or child is to make everybody in the family to have this wrong notion about you when ever you are around, you try to put fear in them with the way you talk or behave to your wife, husband and kids at home, you give your family the impression that you don't care about them and their feelings towards you, but deep down inside of you, you feel pain and regret for the bad treatment and emotional torture you are giving to your family all because you don't want them to take you for granted. Now my question to you that is living your lifestyle in this kind of way is; do you really have peace of mind with the agony you are putting yourself to and this weird lifestyle you are living right now towards your family?

Generally, as a person that relates with people every day of your life, at your work places, meeting places, worship centers, etc, you may have encountered one challenge or the other with people you meet every day of your life and because of the way they made you feel, you begin to look down on yourself and start living your life in another person's world. On the other hand, because you want to join the happening group in town, you begin to place yourself to that level where all that matters to you is to please the world by living a fake life and showing off material things that are not yours all because you want to prove a point. Do you feel it's the right way of living a good and satisfying life?

The sincere truth in all of these things I have discussed here is that you will never find that utmost satisfaction you are looking for when you continue to allow yourself live in such lifestyle, there is no happiness at the end of it all. So it's best for you if I am to suggest for you right now to start changing your mindset and method of living your weird lifestyle of not paying more attention to your own life than  pleasing others and start being more of yourself and live your own life that pleases your soul and heart. I know this statement will contradict some people's belief and ideology of living a selfless life but I tell you this, "what you need to do first in your life is to love yourself first, build yourself before you can build others". I know one of the best ways of living a good and fulfilled life is to live a life you are in control of, and you can not get that when you live in another person's dictates except in your own dictates.

Remember this, you don't need to prove any point in your life based on other people's dictates and instructions. Just learn to be more of you and less of them.

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