10 Years in Marriage Can't Bear A Child

May nabasa akong mensahe lately . It was written like this:

" 10 years na kami kasal ni misis pero di siya mabuntis buntis. Nagpatingin na ko at normal naman lahat, si misis din normal naman din, pero di talaga makabuo. Parehas kasi kami working sa abroad.

Unti-unti na ko nawawalan ng pag-asa dahil tumatanda na kami. Parang gusto ko na gumawa ng paraan para magka-anak ako. Whether kay misis o mag asawa ng iba na lang. Ayaw din namin mag adopt prefer namin sariling dugo namin.

Ano po ba magandang gawin? Hiwalay para maghanap ibang asawa? Maghanap ng egg donor kung abutan na siya ng menopause? Surrogate? Mahal din kasi ang mga surrogate sa US, sa Pinas mas mura.

Meron ako nakita website o app dati na pinapares mga babae at lalake na pwede magka-anak ang dalawa pero nakalimutan ko na kung anong name.

Me: It's hard to say a thing like this . A burning desire to be a parent. Her love for his wife is not big enough to be asking these questions. If he really love his wife, He will accept everything about his wife and their marriage, with a child or not.

This may sound like a clichè, In marriage “for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, till death do you part…”

Just because the wife can’t bear a child together doesn’t mean he can have it with someone else. A selfish one because if he do feel this way and “less than”, the wife would be twice as much being the child-bearer.

Find a deeper meaning in life because there’s more to it than being a parent. A man's worth as a person and happiness is not determined by parenthood. When you know how much you are worth and you find God’s purpose in life, you will stop worrying about things that you can’t have and things you can not change. If you can’t create life, decide how you would want to use your life to create a new life going forward.

It is true that life is unfair, it doesn’t go your way sometimes. You may not get to be the person you wanted and planned to be. Choose to make this unexpected and unplanned life meaningful and fulfilling anyway.

You can’t bear children for now. That is painful and heartbreaking, but it is still possible to live a meaningful, fulfilling, and happy life while waiting for God’s miracles. Stay in faith and count your blessings because people who live filled with gratitude in their hearts live the most joyful lives. Allow God to lead you through His plan for your life because He makes no mistakes.

Love your wife as what as God loves you. Your wife is the one example of the creation of God. HE gaves everything in order us to live in this world. We might not be perfect like HIM we can be a good shepherd to follow HIS righteousness path. Go back to HIM . Make HIM as the center of your marriage. Save your marriage! God's plan is perfect . Be light on HIM.