True test of Character

March 13th, 2022.

You can't judge people only by how they treat you. The true test of character is how they treat those they don't like or need.

Even is someone is nice to you, proceed with caution if they are consistently unkind to others.

Selective civility is a sign of deep-seated hostility.

- Anonymous

Life is a daily test of character. The people you interact with every day are the ones who will shape your experience and help you grow. They are also the ones who will hurt you the most when they don't treat you well.

"Life isn't easy, and neither is comfort."

We are all guilty of mistreating or judging others sometimes, but we all make an effort to be kinder and treat others with respect. If you're going to treat people with respect, though, you should expect that same treatment in return.

A true test of character is how we treat those we don't like or need.

People will always be thirsty for validation and our behaviour is driven by the need to be seen in a certain light. However, today's reality shows us how this thirst can affect us, forcing us to make decisions that aren't necessarily in our best interest.

The problem is that our feelings are often based on momentary experiences instead of long-term outcomes. Once something negative or positive happens we feel a rush of emotion, which motivates us to behave in ways that aren't always the best for us. This can play out in all aspects of life, from business to relationships.

A big shoutout to y'all, thank you.

People will always let you down. You learn to expect that. There's no one you can totally trust because everyone has an agenda of their own.

It's when you screw yourself over that it hurts the most. You start to feel like there's something wrong with you, that you're incapable of telling what's true or who to trust.

The thing is, if you start to expect others to screw you over, it doesn't hurt as much when it happens anymore. It doesn't mean that you're not disappointed anymore, but at least hurt feelings don't kill you from the inside.

Only when we lift each other up, not tear each other down, will we experience the full power of community.

- Oprah Winfrey

Here are some tips to help you determine if a person has a character worth your time and energy.

1. See how they treat people they don't like or need.

2. See how they treat people who aren't like them.

3. See how they treat those they're supposed to take care of.

4. See how they treat the people who seem to have no value to them (like the homeless, etc.).

5. See how they treat their enemies (if they have any).

6. See how long someone can go without lying about anything or anyone (including themselves).

7. See how long it takes for them to apologize.

8. See what happens after things go wrong, particularly when no one is looking.

9. See what they choose when they are given several things simultaneously (and thus must choose).

10. See how they react when someone has done something good for them that requires no expectation of something in return.