Laws of Detachment

April 5th, 2022.

The world is constantly changing. Our perceptions, our relationships, and the way we feel are being continuously shaped. We have some control in this, but it doesn't always feel like it.

Detachment allows us to experience life as we are experiencing it, not as we think it is supposed to be. It helps us to step back and see our reality clearly, with no sentimentality, no expectations. It allows us to accept things for what they are and move on in a healthy way.

Detachment doesn’t mean running away from your problems or avoiding them. It means allowing yourself the space to find a solution that truly feels right for you.

Detachment doesn’t mean cutting off relationships or avoiding them either. Rather, it's about creating a space where the relationship can flourish and grow healthily. It's about knowing that you don't need others to be your source of happiness or hold your value as a person.

Detachment gives us control over ourselves and allows us to let go of limiting thoughts and emotions that don't serve us well. Detachment allows room for change and growth within ourselves and others around us.

Detachment is not easy, but it is necessary if we want to live well in this world today. There are laws to detachment.

Allow others to be who they are.

Allow yourself to be who you are.

Don't force situations.

Solutions will emerge in time.

Uncertainty is reality.

Embrace it.

The laws of detachment are the laws of reality.

There is an absolute certainty that uncertainty is real.

There is an absolute certainty that we don't know what's around the corner.

There is an absolute certainty that we can't control the world around us.

No one can tell what the future holds. We can plan, anticipate and prepare but in the end we may be surprised. Sometimes those surprises are pleasant, sometimes not so much.

Allow others to be who they are.

Don't try to change them. If you have something positive to share, then share it freely with no expectation for something in return.

Allow yourself to be who you are.

If you're feeling angry, then feel that anger. If you're feeling sad, then feel that sadness. Embrace it, and then let it go. Don't force relationships or interactions, if they are not working, let them go.

Solutions will emerge with time and space between you and the other person.

And that space is the antidote to detachment. The space allows you to embrace the uncertainty within the situation, because when two people come together with certainty, there is often resistance on one side or the other. Uncertainty is reality.

Embrace it and leverage it.

Success comes from detaching yourself from a situation that is not working and allowing yourself the space to evaluate your options before taking action again. And what's true for one person is true for every person, so next time you find yourself trying to control a situation or a person, just remember there are laws of detachment and allow yourself the space to succeed.

If you've been trying to be someone else for so long, it's probably because you don't like who you're with. But that's not a good enough reason for you to keep doing it.

You see, the thing is, nothing can replace you. You are irreplaceable. And that is what you've got to believe and keep telling yourself until you actually DO believe it.

There are things that are important and there are things that don't even matter at all. When you stop believing in the little stuff, then you'll get your groove back.

Trust me, when you do that, you'll find what it is that you want and want to do. But until a certain point, if you don't know what it is you're looking for, then everything seems just as important as everything else, doesn't it? Well, trust your guidance system, your intuition will show call signs of where it wants to go next. If you keep moving in the same direction without knowing whether it's the right way or not, eventually you'll get there and maybe even realize that you got lost along the way.

Most of the time the things that bother us are mostly the things we've created in our minds.

Stop thinking in those terms and focus on creating something positive out of those circumstances instead.