Disappointment

April 14th, 2022

I'm so tired of being disappointed.

When someone do something unexpected, how do I get over my disappointment?

I'm sure you know what I'm talking about, like when you're about to get on a rollercoaster or go bungee jumping and someone makes a better last minute offer to do something else, the feeling that hits you like a punch in the gut and leaves you feeling like you just got kicked off the ride is disappointment.

It's always a good idea to know how to deal with it when it happens to you because then you can get over it and move on to more important things rather than being bummed out for the rest of the day.

Life happens. There are always setbacks, but some have bigger consequences than others. When we are disappointed, it gets our focus off what's most important.

Disappointment makes us question our own abilities as well as the goodness of others. It leads to discouragement and depression. Disappointment is a thief that robs us of the joy of the present and our hope for tomorrow.

How do I get over my disappointment?

Disappointment is a natural part of life, but it doesn't have to be a part of your life that you just accept and tolerate.

Disappointment comes in many forms, like when your sibling or your favourite friend does something you don't expect, when you're not getting the salary you want at work, or even when someone disappoints you in a significant relationship.

Disappointment is not pleasant, but what can be pleasant is learning how to deal with it and move on to better things in life.

We've all been there, done that, and we're not proud of it. Disappointment is something that affects all of us, and as difficult as it is to get over it, we have to learn how it's an opportunity to grow.

I could remember when my roommate did something so disappointing to me.

But then I thought, "there's no way on earth she could have done this intentionally."

I think the same went for the time I watched someone nearly kill another person by false accusations. Or even the time an acquaintance said something that was offensive to me.

I'm sure there are many more times when I've seen people do things that they didn't intend to do.

We're all just trying to get through life, doing what we can with the resources we have. We don't always make the right decisions and we definitely don't always make the right choices.

Disappointment is a difficult emotion to deal with. It's one of the most common human emotions, but it can feel devastating.

Breaking up with a partner, losing your job and dealing with debilitating illness are all examples of difficult situations that can make you feel let down.

But there is a growing movement of people who have learnt how to deal with disappointment. There are a lot of different ways you can respond to these situations. Some people choose to wallow in their emotions, but developing resilience isn't about learning how to stop feeling disappointed or how to avoid every let down.

It's about how we face these challenges and move on, while remaining true to ourselves.

One of the most important aspects of building resilience is being able to identify your values and being able to recognise when you are being true to them.

With this self-awareness, you nurture your wellbeing and gain the ability to bounce back from life's challenges and overcome hurdles more easily.

The ability to be resilient can be nurtured. Just know that each individual will deal with disappointment differently.