Can you please be CLEAN?🤣🤣

5/11/21

Can you please be CLEAN?🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

I'm sure you all would be wondering if I'm trying to give an admonition or a sermon on neatness. But that is not the case, read on!!!

Whenever you feel like speaking negatively against yourself or even anyone around you, go against that feeling, it kills.

Let's read through a true-life story.

When Doyin was a young girl, she can't deny the days when her mum was deeply tired and frustrated. There are days her mum almost broke down in tears.

Times her mum felt like just sending her away from home but because she can't send her out, she would rather let her be and go for a walk to regain her sanity.

No, Doyin wasn't that bad, but parenting a child with a full slate from the street and a dysfunctional home takes a lot of fortitude to wipe off and rewrite on her slate.

One of their major tussle points is Doyin's uncleanliness.

Her mum taught her how to keep tidy and clean up herself even to the brushing of teeth, to keep the kitchen sink clean and dry, in other to avoid choking the sink with food particles by providing a colander, empty trash can instead of piling up the dirt etc.

The uncleanliness got her mum frustrated to the point that she would rebuke her and say:

*You're so dirty*🤦‍♀️

This has continued for a while. Of course over the years Doyin has improved in almost all areas except cleanliness at least to the point that these changes could be noticed.

Recently, they had an episode about keeping dirty clothes with the new ones which made her mother beat her.

She yelled *You're so dirty*

Even the explanation she gave for keeping wet cloth inside dry ones left the onlookers jaws open. 😆🤣😂😹😆🤣😂😹😆🤣😂

She apologised and promised to change as always.

Sometime last week, her mother started to think about this issue and ways to drive this lesson into her daughter deeply.

She didn't get a straight answer but her mind went on a journey to all the things Doyin has been doing in the house and getting correctly, all the virtues and values that have been ingrained in her which are so evident in her life.

She thought within her that if she keep focusing on her progress and rejoice, both of them will gladly walk through Doyin's uncleanliness issue and breakthrough.

Change the strategy. How?

I wondered on, *She is just what you have been calling her*🙆‍♀️

The statement *You're dirty* has to change.

It is not a good speech for correction. It is a decree. You're calling forth what you want to see. 😭😭

Change the words you pronounce on yourself or people around you and you will see the change.

Doyin's mum was sober.

She started using a new approach, and instead of saying,

"You are Dirty"

She says,

Please I do not want to use this adjective anymore. Can you please be CLEAN?🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

When you keep saying things like:

*You're the most untidy person I have ever seen*

*You're the worst in cooking*

*You're terrible with organisation*

*You don't ever change after all my complaints...*

*You don't ever listen to me....*

*I am tired of us coming to this point...*

*You don't ever call until I ring you* etc.

You get hurt the more.

Saying things with a tone of criticism will not produce great results I tell you but the correction in love will.

The result you will keep getting from criticism and contempt is a revolt from them. This is not because they chose to revolt, your words have attacked their personality. Correct the attitude not attack their person.

Let your word be seasoned with grace.

Everybody responds to appreciation and honour.

Try to make changes.

N.B: The story is a true-life story, but written in my own words.