Oh my God, I am pregnant....How do I tell my Parents? How do I face.... especially my Mother? She will kill me....No No No, this isn't happening.
Sometimes I just wonder what kind of Parents are out there, like how could they be so mean to react in such a way...... Some aren't fit to be a parent, sorry to say. I have seen situations where children especially the girls are blamed for everything and instead of embracing and taking care of them, you just feel like you should throw them away. Forgetting that you brought them to life. Was it their fault? I mean they are raped and all you could do is to thrash them out and not hear them out. There are many of such happening and I hope reading this article, you might want to change your perspective.
The deed has been done and what do you think you should do? It's never her fault to be raped. She has tried her best following your advice, morals and ways but one way or the other, she found herself pregnant. Well, most mothers would advised them to go for abortion. Why? How could you suggest that option for your daughter? Can't you just live her to give birth to that child and help train the baby? Why do you make her regret ever coming into this world?
I and my siblings grew up in a family where we all were coerced into not having a male friend. We weren't found among boys. My mom would say "never to stay close to a boy, don't make friends with them". I even thought she was being wicked to us then but later I came to understand she was trying to protect I and my siblings from getting pregnant at an early age. They want us to go to school, be educated and be the best instead of becoming like those street girls that are carrying unwanted pregnancy and give themselves to suffering.
Sending your daughter away because she is pregnant isn't the best solution. The deed has been done and you should bring her closer, take care of her and listen to her reasons. Perhaps she was raped and trying to explain to you but you didn't give that space and then you conclude she leaves your home. Leave to where? That's another trouble you are causing her. At this time, she needs you. I understand you would be pained as a mother who wants the best for her girl child. I know you will be disgraced seeing your friend's daughter excelling while your daughter is with an unwanted pregnancy. I know you will try to regret ever giving birth to such a child. But leaving her to the stigma will cause more pain to her. You are trying to forget that moment you were in the labor room, fighting your life and the baby. Closing your eyes to when she sucks your breast and breastfeeding her to that stage where she has become a grown up lady. And all you could do is to send her away because of something not her fault but she was raped. That's her destiny and you need to help her. She needs your help.
I like watching some movies that gives moral and also are educational and I want to believe it is what is happening in the world that is being put out there as movie to watch and learn from. This movie I watched talks about a lady called "AYETIDE" meaning "Life has come". Right from her childhood, her mom had always warned her to stay away from boys and she has always been a good child and as the first child, she wants the best for herself. Unfortunately, she was raped and got pregnant. Instead of the mother to listen to what she has to say, her father not being around and traveled for a business, the mother sent her packing and called her all sorts of bad names.
The lady gave birth and after so much struggles, she raised her 4 yr old son up and made sure she never acts as her mother.
To cut the long story short, she went back home after her step father begged her to return home. The mother was still at loggerheads with her and in the cause of their misunderstanding one morning, Aye had endured enough of the insult and with anger, voiced out and made her mom know she was raped. The mother couldn't say a word again but started crying.
Why is she crying now? If she had listened to her daughter when it first started, things wouldn't have gone this way.
The problem with most parents is that they are too busy to listen to what their children have to say. These children wants attention but they aren't getting it. Some children are pressurized to meet their peers when they are not getting that attention at home, they are lured into something else and at the end of the day, you blame them. Who else should be blamed if not for the parents.
Children needs parents more than anything. You are the first people they set their eyes on when they were born into this world and it is your duty to be there for them. Instead of sending them out because of a pregnancy they brought in, they are to be embraced and taken care of. It is normal to get angry and bitter but it shouldn't allow you do something you will end up regretting tomorrow.
Thanks for reading
June 19, 2021.
This make me remember a friend of mine that was pregnant in her 100level,she was so scared of her parent that she did abortion and afterwards the abortion leads to her womb damaged that she didn't discover until after 6month of her marriage that the husband's family started questioning her and she went to the hospital and was told. When she called me I was so sorry for her that she didn't tell her parents then because of the fear