Why are always being Judgmental?
Why we are always keep judging others? Is it necessary to always keep pointing fingers to others? Whatever others are doing is it always necessary to give our opinion in all matters?
A small point of view, a little judgment keeps others away from trying better in their field. It is ok to give advise, to show mistakes but when we always keep judging and telling one that he/she is not doing right, he/she is not good at all, he/she is characterless and so on that break down a person and a person become mentally depressed. I am continuing this article from the one which I wrote earlier,Depression,the hidden enemy
A person, who is mentally depressed at first seeks help and attention from his friends. But the matter of sorrow that most of the time friends start to make judgments and laugh at the conditions. Well, there can be exceptional. But people who are close to us at that crucial time fail to help us, fail to understand us, fail to console us. I am not telling that they are bad, wrong people. But somehow they just can't help us, we feel more down with them. Then it will be wise if we talk with someone who doesn’t know very much about us, but who is like a friend to us, who is trustworthy of course. That kind of friend can give us a good company and will listen to us without judgment. This person can be a good counselor also. A person who can understand us and will not judge and even if he makes judgments will not affect us.
Our role as a person:
If we find out that anyone, our friend or outsider, is not behaving well, always in a mood off, if we notice that one of our friends is upset always, we should go to him/her and keep talking with him/her. If he/she does not want to speak up or open up still we will try to talk. It is not always necessary to talk on a good topic or on his/her personal issues. We can randomly talk on any kinda topic.
And most importantly,if we find any friend did any mistakes, we should not make him feel too guilty that he start to feel inferiority complex. We are human beings and we know that "to err is human" and so it is wise to let go of things and forgive yourself. We should not make others live in regrets. Life is too short for such thing. Every moment is important. If we have the opportunity to mend our mistakes then we of course mend this and free us from guiltiness. And if we can't mend then we should let go of these feelings and try to be a better person for the future. Life is so precious and so we should take care of it properly.
Hope you guys like my thoughts and try to be less judgmental.