“We are only doing this for you.”
“It’s only for your own sake.”
Do you hear the same thing too from your parents? Well, this not new to us anymore especially to me because since the Odon of time I’ve been hearing this one.
Title: Strictly for You Article: 02 Author: Petite Date: September 22, 2021
I grow up from a very conservative and strict bloodline.
My grandmother was a very conservative one, and as a first granddaughter I was the one who experience how conservative and strict she was. Way back 15 years ago never have I ever wore shorts before when I was young, all my bottoms are either a jogging pants or long skirts. I never even got to wear sexy tops before, I never got a mini skirt that looks cute just like other kids does. What I wear was blouses, T-shirts, sweat shirts and long sleeves. Yes, I was a kid but the way I dress looks like an elderly. I always envy other kids the way they look so cute on their shorts and mini shirts, and every time I try to wear one my grandmother will always scold me because of it.
And that explains as to why I can’t even dare to wear shorts nowadays, I only wear shorts when I’m home and aside from that you can’t see me wearing one. It’s just because I’m not used to wearing one since I was little. I can still remember way before this pandemic started, I was teased for not wearing shorts in every beach and pool outings. Call me weird but I always wear jogging pants and T-shirt even when swimming. At first they call me weird and says,
“Asa ka? Matug?” (Are you going to sleep?)
They will laugh at me because of what I’m wearing but I don’t care, laugh at me all you want. This is me haha. Now my friends are used to it, because they can’t change it.
I was Senior High School when I started to wear an off shoulder top, I was hesitant at first but my friends always wanted me to come out of my comfort zone. So I decided to wear one and everyone was like
“Oh, that’s a first.”
Hahaha it really was a first. Even up to now I’m still adapting to this current trend of dressing, but you can still see my conservative side. There are a lot of stuffs I want to try wearing but I’m not too confident to wear one, that’s why I always end up dreaming wishing I can.
My father is very strict even since the day I came out to world up until now. Having a strict parent is not easy. Whatever you do, wherever you go, all of it needs approval and monitoring. So this how my life goes.
Every outing, birthdays, celebrations and every other special occasions I really need to have a lot of time asking for his approval. When I say a lot, I MEAN A LOT. I always ask my parent’s permission month before the set date of the outing/birthdays, and whatever occasions that my friends want me to attend. Yes, one month of preparation before the day of deployment haha. That’s how my leisure time goes, and that is not enough, I need to ask my friends to ask permission to my parent’s for me to go either personal or through messages. Most of my friends already know this one, that’s why when they will invite me to every occasion their line will always be,
“Mananghid ko kay angkol.” (I will ask uncle’s permission)
Yes, and once they do. I know my father will automatically approve me of going out. With the strict reminder that I should be home before 4:00 PM and that I should text him every now and then. Follow the rules and I’m good to go. That’s how my life goes having a conservative and strict parents.
Before I used to rant as to how I’ve been treated like this but later on I realized that it was only for my own good. Having a strict dad may not be easy but it is only one way of showing how much he cares for me. And by letting my friends ask his permission is one way of showing that my friends are trustworthy and that I’m in good hands when I’m with them, one way of earning trust and respect.
Author’s Note: All that I stated above are true and base on my personal experience and it was not made up. I hope that when you also have a strict parent always look at the bright side of it. And this is just STRICTLY FOR YOU. Thank you for reading lovely one. ~Love, Petite.🦋