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The Mindset Of The Successful Relationship

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Relationships are a key part of our lives. Relationships are a fluid, living thing that constantly renews, nourishes and challenges us. Relationships are to be nurtured continuously, not thrown away when something better happens to appear. If you're in a successful relationship, it can sometimes be challenging to continuously grow and thrive.

When you find yourself slipping back into your old ways, it's important to shake things up with new ways to think about your relationships. The success of a relationship is often not straightforward and difficult to predict. It requires conscious effort from both sides on a daily basis to maintain that success.

A relationship is not so much an exchange of ideas, but rather an understanding and flow of energy. A relationship is the balance of mutually beneficial effort and it thrives primarily on the effort of both people. When you make that effort, you will find the relationship thriving, on all levels.

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Building A Successful Relationship

The foundation of all healthy relationships is mutual respect. The key to having a respectful relationship with another is to be equally respectful of yourselves. When you are disrespectful of others, eventually that respect is not returned and the relationship becomes strained. When you are not respectful of yourself, you set up impossible expectations for others which causes even more problems.

Successful relationships are built on the basis of balance and compromise. You have to give up a little of your own selfish interests, to gain the other person's respect. If you try to force a relationship, without giving up anything to gain their trust, then the relationship will not last and you will have wasted your time.

The next step in building a successful relationship is to value the other person as much as you value yourself. It's easy to let your own insecurities and selfishness cloud your view of others. A balanced relationship is needed for both parties to remain in good health. When one party starts to get too far ahead of the other, then it's time to make adjustments.

The final step in creating a successful relationship is to look beyond the superficial. When you look beyond the surface, you begin to understand the complexities of the other person. It's only through this complexity that you can hope to find commonalities, the things that you can both agree on. When you find these commonalties, you overcome the differences that may exist and have created a healthy relationship of mutual benefit and growth.

Being Open To Solving Problems

A healthy relationship requires both parties to be open to discussing problems and finding solutions that can benefit both of them. If one person is unwilling to compromise, the relationship will suffer. If you only seek to impose your own solutions on the other person, then you will encounter problems.

You have to be able to listen to their solutions and acknowledge the efforts they make towards the solution. You can't just say no to their efforts, because that shuts you out and harms the relationship. You have to understand that you are not always going to get what you want. Sometimes you have to sacrifice what you want for the benefit of the relationship.

You are never going to be able to fully convince another person that you are right, if they don't share your view. While it may be logical and even be the better choice from an individual perspective, it may not be the best choice, if what they want is more important, than what you want. When you find yourself in a position, where you are going to have to choose between what you want and what the other person wants, you have to be willing to walk away from your desires for the sake of the relationship.

You have to remember that you are not special and the other person doesn't need to bend to your will. They are free to choose their own paths and to follow their own happiness. You don't have the right to control them or to own their obedience. You may encounter situations where you feel you have no other choice, than to assert yourself and show dominance.

In these situations, you have to remember to be compassionate in your dominance. You can't just be forceful and bossy, because the other person will then see you as having a domineering and abusive personality. Being assertive and taking charge is one thing, but you still have to be kind in the process.

Having Joy And Wonderful Times

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A relationship that is full of joy and wonderful times does not need to be perfect. In fact, it can't be, because life is not perfect. You don't expect a rose garden, you just know that it exudes its own form of beauty. A relationship that brings you happiness is the most important thing in the world. When you and your significant other have joy and wonderful times, these will more than make up for any minor annoyances that may arise. You always want to find the good in others and to look for the good, even in difficult situations. Why should you ever be unhappy?

The way to a happy and successful relationship is to be yourself. If others don't like you, you can't please them. It's as simple as that. No one can change you. No one can control who you are. There are two kinds of people: those who accept you for who you are and those who attempt to change you. The first kind of people you can please by being yourself. This pleases them and pleases you. The second kind of people only bring you more frustration and disappointment. It's better to learn to ignore them and to focus on the people who appreciate you.

The Power Of Connection

It's the power of connection that draws people to each other in the first place. When two people who are similar connect, then there is a flow of energy that is felt by all. They feel good together. A relationship between two individuals is only as strong as the bonds, that are formed between the people in the relationship. It's only through these connections, that you can survive and have a good life.

When your bonds are formed with another person, you have no control over these bonds. You cannot dictate how they are formed and you cannot sever the bonds once they are formed. For the most part, these bonds are irreversible. Once formed, they cannot be broken. People are so predictable though. That's the good thing, at least. You know that when you see someone, they'll act the way they feel. If they are happy and having a wonderful time, then they will be nice to you. If they are feeling down, then they will not be nice to you.

You can't make other people happy, but you can choose how you respond to them. You have the power to decide how kind you are towards others. You can choose to be loving and open, or you can be hateful and shut-off. You can choose to be kind and accepting, or you can choose to be judgmental and condemning. You have the power to choose how you will respond to people. Choose to be loving and kind and be prepared to be loved and cherished in return.

Thank you for reading.

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We're almost 4 years and I can say our relationship aren't that strong. I guess we lack something and need to work it on

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There is always a chance to build it stronger, if both of you are willing to work on that.

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I agree a lot peter. "Being open to Solving Problems" based on my experiences. It's really important. You have to open each other especially when you have a problem each one of you. It's really a big help and build the relationship to be strong if both of you helping and holding each of other while facing the problems and finding a solutions to fix it.

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Also don't keep your problems inside you and pile them up, because it can explode and that's not good for anyone.

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Yes peter that's true. We need some others too. We shouldn't face it alone.

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Building a successful relationship is really hard now a days especially there are a lot of temptations. I had watched, read a lot of stories about infidelity. However if all couples have that things you have mentioned, I believe they can achieve that ideal relationship.

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Temptations are always there. We tend to think that other girls or boys are better, than we have currently. Some people unfortunately willing to throw away their well established relationship to a new one and later when they found out they were wrong they want to come back. Too late.

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Well said, Peter. Respect, Understanding, and Love are the most important things to maintain a healthy and successful relationship.

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Without them it would not work and I actually witnessed that.

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Care,trust love and respect are important to hold any relationship. Couple should learn to be open to sort out their issues.

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In a healthy relationship both parties are open for that and can talk calmly to discuss their issues.

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In every relationship respect is the most important things. At the same time trust is also valuable matter. If we can do it then surely our relationship will be success my friend.

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This is true. I saw so many couples broke up, because of lack of trust and respect.

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"Who does not loves is already dead"

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Oh yes. That is very true.

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In a happy relationship, companionship is always ok, so there is no problem. If you are happy, everything will be successful

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True! Both of the parties need to be happy otherwise it does not work.

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