When I talk about friendship, I talk about true friendship. You may know many people, you wish were friends, but there comes a time when you have to realise, who your true friends are. Friendship is a very important and precious thing to have in our lives. Good and true friends should always be cherished, because besides being happy and cheerful, they can also provide selfless help anywhere and anytime. We need them even when we are on our own paths and have families of our own. A true friend remains a true friend for a lifetime.
What I Have Realised Recently
I have been trying to organise my old photos, both physical and digital, to make them tidy. They shouldn't be a mess. Just as I don't like clutter around me, I don't like clutter on my computer either. So the point is, I got hold of some photos of an old group of friends. Those memories were captured more than 20 years ago. We spent a lot of time together. I have very good memories and experiences of that time. Parties, holidays together, going to the beach, fooling around and all that kind of things.
As I looked at the pictures, I wondered where they had gone and why we were not in touch. So it wasn't a real, lifelong friendship. At least it seemed like it to me at the time. I left my homeland. I moved not only from home, but also from the country, but that is no reason for a friendship or any other kind of relationship to cease to exist. After all, even though I don't live at home, I still have friends from my childhood. I tried to find the answer to all of this, because there was no conflict between us at all.
Possible Inherent Causes
I think the answer to the problem can be found by starting with the following question, as it is difficult to judge correctly which direction a relationship will take from the beginning.
Are They Showing Their True Face To Us?
If they are not showing their true face, then it is difficult to determine if they are selfless and disinterested in wanting to be friends. What we can see and experience is their selflessness in helping us when we are in trouble. A friendship is not only a friendship in good times, but also in times of trouble.
In addition to this one thing, it is also worth considering the following questions to help you judge the nature of the friendship that is forming.
What Are Your Friends Like?
What do you notice about your current friends around you? If you think about it more deeply and you are more circumspect about them, you may find, that many of them are just being nice. They may just be spending time with you out of boredom.
Do You Have True Friends?
Are there any of your friends, who are always there for you when you're in trouble? Say your car breaks down in the middle of the night 100 kilometres away from home and you call them to help you. Would they go without a second thought?
Who do you miss? Do they miss you?
If you miss any of your friends, that is already a good sign, because it means, that you would gladly spend your precious time with them and you know, it would not be wasted. If the same person or peope feel the same as you, then it definitely worth to go out and have good times together.
What Is It That Binds You Together?
If you have a bond with your friend in your personal life, it could be anything. Your first memory or experience together, that you talk about a lot or you can thank a lot to them and you know each other's family too, then it could mean, that your friendship is not superficial and it could be a long lasting one if not a lifelong one.
Do You Have Disinterested Conversations?
Disinterested conversations could also mean a lot, because you know that any time you talk on the phone or meet them, there will be no reason for the conversation or meeting that is in their best interest. The most common reason for this is none other than to borrow money.
Do They Care About You And Do You Care What Happens To Them?
If your friends got aware of that something happened to you either bad or good news and they call you up to ask what happened exactly to find out more in order to help you out or get excited with you. You can be sure, that they actually care about you. Also if they know and never forget anniversaries like your birthday for example.
Who Are Your True Fiends
Knowing who your true friends are and who your superficial friends are, think again about these questions mentioned above and you will find out. Unfortunately, sometimes human relationships need to be cleaned up and tidied up so that everything is in order and you don't have people in your circle of friends who might take advantage of you.
Unfortunately, for many of us this can cause psychological problems, especially if it turns out, that a friend you trusted and helped a lot without reciprocation has turned against you.
I think most true friendships are made in childhood and last the longest, even a lifetime. I've been lucky enough to have friends like that for over 30 years. Even if we don't talk for a long time, there's nothing wrong with that and we are not questioning each other's whereabouts.
I hope you too have at least one true friend, who you can trust blindly.
If so where, when and how did you meet? What memories do you have? I am looking forward to see, if there is any true friendships out there.
I still have friends from my adolescence when I started to have friends, at least I have one. Then in my senior years I met others and I have two more and then in college I made others. We maintain communication although it is not constant when we do it, we tell each other about the many things that have happened. You don't need to be in communication all the time if when you do you spend quality time together. Friends exist, they are few, but they exist.