Six Excuses, That Often Said

I'm sure that you have heard a lot of excuses from people who didn't want to do something, or if you asked them for a favour, they came up with something, saying they couldn't do it for you. In the last year, in the pandemic, there has been a particular increase in the number of people objecting, saying that nothing can be done now, because there are all sorts of measures and lockdowns.

Yes, these are serious things, that cause a great deal of inconvenience, but despite all this, we have not been banned from sport or from walking. You could not make excuses for everything. I thought, that in this article today, I would talk about common excuses, that you may have come across.

I Do Not Know

This may not sound like an excuse for not doing something, but it can be an excuse or strategy for not wanting to do something. People are often able to make themselves look stupid and simply "I don't know" the answer to a simple question, like what do you like to do?

Anyway, if you think about it, this can develop in people from a very young age. Because of impatient parents, if it takes that little child a long time to do something, they often take it out of their hands and the parents do it for them. This is not good in any way.

On the one hand, the child will not develop, and on the other hand, they will realise, that there will always be someone to do it for them, so that by the time they grow up, that will be the answer "I don't know."

I Can't Help It

This statement, that "I can't help it" is nothing more, than a disclaimer. We hear this very often. "Why is it the way it is? It shouldn't be there like that." To this and similar questions, we can get the answer that "I can't help it. Someone else did it, not me."

There is a problem with that. It's not going to solve anything. The unresolved situation remains. It's easy to point the finger at someone else to deflect the blame from ourselves.

The one who caused the problem is no longer there, so they can't fix it at that moment. We still have to, even if we don't like it or think it is unfair. In some cases, the problem may need to be fixed immediately and there is no time to deal with who was at fault.

I Can't Do It

This is probably the most common. It's the easiest thing to say. "I can't do it." There are two possibilities. Either they really can't do it or they claim, that they haven't tried. We hear from children, that I don't like this food. They didn't even try it, but they looked at it and decided, that they didn't want it.

If they can't and don't do it, it's giving up. They may have tried twice and given up the third time. If, on the other hand, they didn't even try, it means they don't want to do it.

But it could also mean, that years ago someone told them not to do it, because they can't do it anyway, and it's not worth bothering with. If they believe, that and live with it, they won't do it. It's the mindset, that needs to change and believe, that they can do it. Then they can do it.

What Others Will Say

Many people are afraid of what others will say, that they might be criticised. I always say, that I don't care what anyone says or thinks about me. I don't care how I look in other people's eyes. I don't care what they say, if I wear my favorite clothes or have a style.

I don't care how anyone thinks or appears. That doesn't mean I don't get along with them, just simply, that why should we interfere in each other's business or habits.

If you're not pursuing your dreams, because you're afraid of what others will say, it doesn't make sense. They probably won't say anything, but if they do, it's just jealousy, that your dream has come true for you, which is not worth bothering with. I mean with the jealousy.

This Is My Karma

I'm not well versed in esoteric and spiritual things, but I do know, that people talk about karma even, when something never works out for them. Their karma won't let them, they say.

Speaking of karma, I can even mention the fortune tellers and constellations, that they too have told them and showed them, that it hasn't been given to them.

I don't think that's entirely true. It may indeed be harder for some people to achieve or do something, but I believe, that nothing is impossible and we shouldn't blame it on karma.

If you are knowledgeable about esotericism and spiritual things, feel free to correct me, if I have this wrong.

I Am Too Afraid Of It

Fear is in every man. It is undeniable. Everyone is afraid of something or someone. Think about the consequences of not doing something, because of our fears. Then what we are afraid of now, will come out and we will realise, that it wasn't so scary, because what comes next is even worse, which is what we really need to be afraid of.

That's true for our health most of all. You know you should go to the doctor, but you're afraid of something. Like the pain you'll feel during the treatment. If you put it off and don't go, later it's bound to be too late and what might have been painless to treat, will now be painful for sure.

One thing to remember is, that the real brave person is the one, who is afraid, but does what needs to be done.

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