Lies To Fool Ourselves With

Have you ever been confronted with lies? I'm sure everyone has at least once in their life experienced the unpleasant feeling of being lied to and having to face all sorts of things, that didn't cover the whole truth. I have no doubt, that you have lost trust in someone because of it.

What about when you lie to yourself? You may find yourself confronted with your own lies day after day in a way, that completely deceives you and you don't even realize, that you have lied to yourself.

In this article, I want to talk about some of the things, that happen to us often in our daily lives and it is very easy to fall into our own trap. My aim with this article is to wake people up to these things so that the next time they happen, you don't slip over them and don't even notice them, but you pay attention to them.

I will Do It Tomorrow

I can't imagine how many times I've said to myself, I'm not going to do this or that today, I'm going to leave it for tomorrow. Actually, people are afraid to face their own difficulties on some level and like to put things off as long as they can. We'll say I will do it tomorrow. We know, that tomorrow is not far away and it doesn't matter if something is not done today.

Then tomorrow comes, but by that time we may have accumulated a thousand other things, that should have been done a long time ago and that we consider more important, so we don't do them today, because we think that another day will always come and we will have the opportunity to do what we didn't do the day before.

I Don't Have Time

This is probably one of the most common things, that comes out of our mouths: I don't have time. Every day is 24 hours and everyone has the same amount of time, no more, no less. A good time management can help with this, if we pay attention to what we do, when we do it and for how long. Everyone prefers to do what makes for a more enjoyable pastime, but we know, that we have to leave time for the important things too.

If someone asked you if you did what you were supposed to do, you would probably say no, because you didn't have time. Ask yourself why you didn't have time. If you go home after school or work and spend your time checking your messages, which is fine, because you might have important messages among all the fun memes, but it's very easy to get distracted by scrolling through Facebook or Instagram or watching videos on YouTube.

In the afternoons after work, everyone has 5-6 hours of free time and if you can dedicate just one hour every day to the things you should be doing, but aren't having fun, you've already taken a huge step in a positive direction. Many times we don't even know what our time has gone for, we just realize that it's 10pm again and it's almost time to go to bed. If you write down at the end of each hour what you have done in that hour, you will realize, that you have wasted a lot of valuable time doing nothing.

Nothing Works For Me

This is an excuse to tell yourself, that you'd better not do anything, because you'll never succeed. It's usually said by people with a lack of self-confidence and the like. They keep saying it until they believe, that they are good at nothing and therefore don't start anything.

It's a big self-deception and a poor excuse. If you take a pen and paper right now and start writing down all the things you have achieved in your life so far, you will realize, how much you are lying to yourself by saying that. You've graduated from high school, you've successfully completed all your studies, you've had successful interviews and been hired for a job, you've got your license to drive a car, you've learned to cook, and there are countless examples of what you've been successful at. So why not succeed at anything in your life now.

I'm Too Old Or Too Young For This

It's never too late to start, or so they say you can't start early enough. OK do not have children at the age of 11 and you don't want more children at the age of 81. You're really too young or too old for that, although there have been an example of an 11 year old girl having a child.

If you want to start a business at 30 or 35, start it and don't think it's too late. Another thing. Some musicians start learning a musical instrument at the age of 4, but why is it too late to start at the age of 30. Some people are already in their twenties, when they are famous, but don't let that deter you from learning piano, because you're too old.

Start doing whatever you want to do, regardless of your age, and put in the work and effort and you will succeed. Believe me, it won't be too late.

I Will Not Change

I will never change. You've got that written all over you and you will live the rest of your life as you are and in the situation you are in. Every person can change if they want to, but it takes a lot of effort, energy and responsibility.

If you don't want to step out of your comfort zone and take the first steps to create a better future for yourself and take responsibility for facing difficulties, you won't change and your situation won't change for the better.

It Was Fate That It Should Be So

This reminds me of a funny thing. I saw a text message that said: "Fate wanted me to write you." And the reply was:"Then fate will be banned, not just you." That made me laugh.

All joking aside. It's okay for everyone to believe in something higher, in prophets, star signs or horoscopes, it's okay, because everyone believes in what they want and I don't want to interfere with that, but let's not think, that if something doesn't work out the way we planned it, that it's just fate and that's why it didn't work out.

We are just as much a part of our actions and our success is largely influenced by how and what choices we make. Fate will not always decide for us, we have to be there and do something about it.

I Need That Very Much Right Now

Many times I have said to myself, that I need a bar of chocolate, a bottle of wine, to get kicked out of my harness, things like that. I don't need them at all. They are just substitute actions, excuses to avoid facing the problem and to put it aside for a longer or a shorter period of time. It is not a solution, because the problem will not solve itself and will still be waiting for me after I have complied with the wishes.

I Do Not Need Help

There are situations, when it is difficult to get our way and we really need some help, but we still say no thanks I will solve it myself. If someone offers to help us, we must accept. Why put ourselves in a more difficult situation, than we are already in.

If we know, that we need help and we don't accept it, we do it out of pride and perhaps to prove to ourselves, that we can do the impossible on our own. People want to help us with a willingness and a good heart, let's accept it.

One of the last few days I saw a lady trying to carry her bike up the stairs. Without hesitation I offered her help, which she accepted immediately. This not only made her job easier, but also made me, the helper, feel good that I could help.

I Must Not Make Mistakes

It's silly. Just because we fear our failures and mistakes doesn't mean, that everything will work out perfectly. Sure, we should strive for perfection, but we shouldn't be scared, when we make mistakes. I do not want to repeat what I have already said in some of my articles and what others have said in theirs, I know it is boring, but we learn best from our mistakes. So dare to make mistakes and don't be afraid of failure.

I hope this article has been useful and you have recognized some of the things mentioned. If there are any, that I haven't written down, that you have encountered, please let me know in the comments. I'm curious to see what else we delude ourselves with besides these.

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