It's Called A Heart

I've seen how much pain can be alleviated simply by sharing our smiles and embracing each other. I've seen this first hand, and I've come to realize, that love really can change the world.

There are all types of love. The kind you experience while reading a good book. The motherly love you feel while being held close in your mother's arms. The romantic love you feel when you hold your sweetheart. But there's another kind of love, that one should not forget. The kind, that other people endure everyday despite its effects.

The heart is the emotional center of the body, the most important organ in all of life and it has to face all sorts of emotions, that a human could ever experience including the most beautiful feeling, love and the most terrible feeling broken heart.

If we're honest we should admit we don't really know how it feels to love and to suffer, to give and to accept love. Beyond the physical discomfort and pain of romantic relations, human hearts can't be quantified. They don't fly around the room following us around like the banner the army has at the parade; they won't spill out of our chest, if we make an incorrect move and put our hand on the wrong place. All we know is that we love and we suffer.

I was inspired to write this article by one of my favorite songs called: "It's Called A Heart"

"There's something beating here inside my body
And it's called a heart
You know how easy it is
To tear it apart"

A broken heart doesn't have to be a physical object. It can be a broken spirit, that suffers in silence. We'd all like to think, that we can take all the bad things, that happens and just laugh them off. "It's just a scratch," you'd think. But what happens, when that scratch becomes a scar and that scar turns into a rent in your heart?

A scar is a mark left on the body as a result of some sort of damage or wound. A heart scar is a rent in the flesh, a wound that never quite heals. That's what happens, when the one you love leaves and never comes back.

What happens, when the world you live in becomes so brutal, that you can't take it? When you can't love, life doesn't have the same meaning it once did. We give ourselves to love and love reliably, only to have our hearts broken again and again. The pain is great and we come to the conclusion, that love simply isn't worth it. We turn away, we become loners, we isolate ourselves from society. We start to see what the world has to offer and we just take what we can get.

A broken heart is a great deceiver. It tells you that you aren't good enough, that you're ugly, and that you don't fit in somewhere. Sometimes it doesn't even let you love in the first place. If you're lucky enough, a broken heart can lead you to salvation, but not in the way you're used to. It is easy to tear a heart apart.

"If I lend it to you
Will you keep it safe for me
I'll lend it to you
If you treat it tenderly"

Many people suffered enough heartache. They don't want to go through it ever again, which is why they're going to make sure, that it doesn't happen to them again. They're going to be picky with who they give their love to and make sure, that person loves them back in equal measure.

But what happens if you don't have that sort of control over someone? What if they don't return the love you give them? Well, you can't help it if they don't know what love really feels like, so you're going to have to help them on that front.

You're going to lend your love to that person as well, but only just a little. You'll give them just enough, so that they'll know what it feels like to be loved and to keep taking that next step, they'll want more. Eventually you'll have to take back everything you gave them, but hopefully not before the process is complete.

A broken heart can be healed, but only with the right guidance. It's a risky endeavor though, you may never get that love back and the other person might become a horrible monster in the process. Take a risk, lend your heart. But don't become lonely along the way.

"There's a sun shining in the sky
But that's not the reason why
I'm feeling warm inside
The answer isn't classified, it's my heart"

There are many theories about why we feel love. One states, that the brain is the organ that experiences love. Where it exists so does love exist. Another theory states, that love is made up of a number of chemicals in the brain and that we experience these chemicals. Still another theory states, that love is a combination of all of the above.

We experience love in similar fashions to how we experience other emotions like joy, anger, and sadness. When you first fall in love, it feels pretty good. After the initial high of being in love wears off, you might experience a few negative emotions, but these should be minor.

When it comes to the more serious emotions, you're either going to feel them for someone new or you're going to feel a sense of loss for someone you once loved. It's all about balance and finding that point of equilibrium. Love can be beautiful, despite being filled with the negative.

"Hearts could never be owned
Hearts only come on loan
If I want it back
I will take it back, I'll take my heart"

If you're lucky, you'll never have to pay back the loan of your heart. If that's the case, then you'll just have to make sure, that you keep on giving it away. However, if you find yourself having to pay back a love, that wasn't really yours to give in the first place, well there are still benefits to such a scenario.

That's because you'll know, that the love you gave was returned with interest, maybe not in this lifetime, but if you keep giving it away, one day your pay back will come. So while you can't keep a broken hearted person from having another broken heart, you can give them the freedom to love again and again. Through lending your own broken heart, someone else may get help on their way to healing. Don't forget to take yours back though before too long, you don't want it to get too damaged.

"There's a lot to be learnt
And you learn when you heart gets burnt"

We all have a breaking point. While some of us may come back from that breaking point faster than others, it's going to happen. When it does, what happens? You learn. You learn, that maybe you can't handle some of the things, that were once possible. Or, maybe you can and you need to change to accommodate these things.

However it happens, you're going to stop doing something, because your heart has to take a back seat at some point. That's how you grow as a person and that's how you can become stronger, because of your experiences.

You will have regrets, but that is part of the process. You don't want to regret not having tried new things, because then you'll always be stuck in a cycle, never truly being satisfied. Instead you have to take chances and hope, that the results are positive. If they aren't, then you must move on, regardless of how it makes you feel in the moment.

Thank you for reading!