In our lives, many of us, including myself, make the mistake of making decisions, judgements and opinions based on generalisations and generalities, which sometimes lead to bad decisions. I am more careful not to generalise and to filter information that comes to me from the outside world, because it is important to me to have an emotional and mental balance when I make a decision.
In the media, on various social media platforms and many other areas, there are people, who are role models in one form or another. This is neither a bad nor a good thing. I don't want to get into that, because it's not my business how much of an influencer someone becomes, but one thing is for sure, if we praise and worship the person we follow, we can fall into the mistake of seeing them as perfect, but how much of that perfection that person can live out of their humanity is another matter.
Yet everyone knows that no human being on earth is perfect in every way. We are here on earth to fulfill our innate desires and dreams, and to do so, we must improve ourselves. This applies to everyone, even the person we make great.
Why Is It Not Worthwhile To See Our Role Model Or The Person We See As Perfect?
The reason why we shouldn't see our role models as perfect is, because they too have false belief systems, that either fit our worldviews and help us move forward or they don't. If we accept all the information from the person we hold in high esteem, it is easy to accept information that does not help us move forward.
It is sensible to review the information we receive in case, we have even a little doubt about what we have received.We must relate everything to our own spirit.
Nowadays, everything can be written down and discussed anonymously on the internet, in forums, on social media platforms, and people often fall out after posting information they have received. Precisely because everyone's view is different. This can give us the impression, that the person we like is not as perfect as we thought they were. The possibility of disappointment is there.
The Spoken Word Has Power
When we vilify someone, we create that atmosphere for ourselves, around ourselves. Of course, we don't have to agree with everything. We can argue, but in a human way, without hurting others and without hurting their feelings.
Just from the title of a video or blog post, we can filter out the gender of the information, that we will hear or read. If it doesn't match our views, we don't watch or read it. This is why I mentioned earlier, that filtering information is important to me.
It is only natural, that in our private lives we sometimes get angry. But when it comes to expressing our opinions in front of an audience, whether face to face or on internet forums, we should be selective and think about what we say or how we write it.
It is therefore worth learning to be able to decide whether or not to even begin to receive the information. We are definitely looking for quality communication, that contains values and that we can learn from. We will not learn anything useful from obscene invective, except how to make ourselves feel uncomfortable.
Let's Also Look At The Positive Side When Something Upsets Us. Why Is It Good For Us?
When we are outraged by a piece of information or a statement, we are deeply wounded. This is because we are not prepared to close the negative points of the issue within ourselves. Once we have closed it and moved on, we will no longer care what the person is talking about.
If we hear an outrageous statement, it brings out the anger in us, and if it comes to us from a person we respect and appreciate, that anger comes out in us twice, which means that we are forced to process the information we receive.
If you think about it, a lot of these statements are generalised, from one person to the masses. It is not directed at you personally, but it is generalising something.
Let me give you some simple examples of these things:
A statement about women in general
A statement about men in general
Generalised statement on childbirth
You had one opinion about a thousand things 10 years ago and you certainly have a different opinion about them now. Thoughts change in your head a million times. Opinions, perspectives change from year to year. A large percentage of people's opinions differ from the information and statements, that are generally published.
Automatic Reactions
Our reactions to informations, statements or any other things can be conscoius or we react to those things with a reaction that comes from our subconscious mind. If we see a car coming and we are there, we jump away without thinking. There are reactions to things, that we react a way we don't even want to react.
Let's say you fancy a boy or a girl and vica versa and they try to give their hand to you to hold it. You pull your hand away, even though you want to hold their hand too. This kind of reaction comes from a subconscious mind.
This could happen when a person had a negative experience or even harmful experience in the past which was intimate and the subconscious mind told them not to hold their hand, because it could be dangerous.
Closing Thoughts
We now see, that our reactions to anything can happen in different ways. So it is necessary to filter all the informations, that we are about to receive and process them after receiving them. It can affect our mood. Our reactions can set barriers and not let us moving forward or they can serve us and help us moving forward.
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It is design in our nature thus sometimes tend to unconsciously reacts over things. That is could reflex. Moreover I would agree that as time pass by our nature of accepting and reacting changes because we learned over time, so as our reflexes.