You may have experienced many hardships in your life and I'm sure it is hard to think about the bad events or emotions, that you have had in the past, that make you sad or angry. However, you mustn't let these negative feelings get the better of you, because they will only cause you to lash out at others instead of focusing on your goals.
I know this may seem like a lot of advice, but I believe if you take all the good things from your life into consideration, then you can overcome any situation. Many people connect past or present events with their personal traits and if they are highly sensitive, then that's what cause them hard times. In some cases it can lead to depression and anxiety.
Don't Let Your Emotions Come Over You
If you are sensitive, then you need to remember what it is like to feel bad about yourself. That is what brings about unhappiness and if you dwell on past pain, then you will most likely let that feelings dictate your future. However, sometimes past pain does dictate the future. It is true you cannot change the past, but you can decide what your future holds. You can take the lessons, that the past has to teach and use them to improve you for better.
You must understand that you cannot let others walk all over you without putting up some sort of fight. That is how others have treated you, so why should you treat others the same? You don't have to be violent and you can show others, that you have improved by how you act now. If you do this, then it will be wise for others to not mess with you, because you will make sure harm comes to them.
This may seems obvious and some people may even say "duh." The way I see it is that if you don't stand up for what you believe in and do something, then you aren't really living, are you? It's time to start living again.
Stop being so sad and angry about the past, learn from it and make the future a better place. You are special and you have abilities, that no one else does. You can make a difference and you know how? You can control your emotions. You can make yourself happy or sad, angry or peaceful. You can do this for as long as you want to. You can also improve yourself even more.
How To Control Your Emotions
First of all, you need to realize, that you can do this. I know it may seem like a lot and even impossible for you, but you can master these skills, if you really want to. The first thing you need to do is to realize, that your emotions are not set in stone. Take the time to think about a time, when you were really happy or excited. Think about this as long as you can, until you start feeling that happy or positive feeling again.
While thinking about the good time, also remember a time when someone made you angry or upset. Focus on this as well and remember all the different details about that. Practice remembering both the good and bad times. Do this until you can access either feeling at will.
The next thing you need to do is to access the emotion immediately. This may take some time, but the more you practice, the faster you will get. The last thing you need to do is to release the emotion immediately. This may take some time as well, but again with practice, you will be able to let go of your anger or sadness instantly.
Don't Connect Events With Your Emotions
Do not let past events dictate your future. Many people make connections in their minds and then get stuck in a loop of sadness, anger, blame, self-harm, etc. For example, if someone cuts you off while you're driving and then you get angry because of that "attack," then you have connected your emotion (anger) with a past event (being cut off). This is a big no-no. The past is the past! It cannot be changed and it is not your fault. You need to leave it there.
You are in control of your future! Give yourself a break, if you start slipping into a bad mood, it's fine to take time for yourself. All you have to do is decide, that you are going to feel a certain way and then think and believe, that you will. You can even choose to feel happy right now if you want. If you're in a bad mood, you're probably stuck in traffic or have something else that's bothering you. Just decide to feel happy and it is easier to do.
Don't Be A Runaway Person
Don't run away from your obstacles and try to hide yourself whenever your emotions bring you down. If you can, you need to face your problems head on and do something about it. This may seem impossible in some cases, but if you really want to, you can accomplish anything. Always remember, you have the power to choose your attitude.
Do you want to still be stuck in a cycle of sadness and depression? No problem! Just keep telling yourself, that you're useless and no one could ever love you. Or do you want to change your way of thinking and be happy with who you are? That's also completely up to you. Just don't give up in the hard times, you have to fight through them.
Your Emotions Are Not "Bad."
Emotion is simply chemicals in your brain. The roots of it will probably be from something, that happened in your past, but you can still choose how you feel in the moment, even if you aren't in complete control of it. Many people think, that their emotions are "bad" or "wrong" and try to suppress them. Don't do this. Emotions are natural and OK. They play a big part in how we interact with the world.
When you feel angry, sad, or any other negative emotion, don't be afraid of it. Don't try to push it away or bottle it up, and don't say it's "bad." Emotions are survival tools, and they can be positive or negative, depending on how you use them. Stop saying "I'm fine," whenever someone asks you how you are. Always be honest, so people know your true feelings. Don't worry, they'll understand even if you are stressed.
Managing Stress
Stress is a common problem for many people, and it can make you feel many different ways. The best way to manage stress is to first realize, that it isn't bad or inherently negative. It's a natural occurrence in life and a common feeling, that everyone experiences, whether it's from their job or other things. Understand that every single thing you experience is teaching you a lesson in one way or another.
When you're feeling stressed, take a moment to remember that you're a capable person, who is able to deal with most problems, even if you do not feel that way right now. Everyone has problems in their lives, but it's how you deal with those problems, that show whether you're a real man or not. Stress can also be conquered through breathing techniques. Deep breathing exercises can immediately relieve stress. Find an exercise, that you like and practice it until you feel less stressed.
If you find that these exercises don't work for you, take a break from whatever is causing you stress for a while. If you're not careful, this can lead to burnout, which is when you can't take the stress anymore and it causes you to have a mental breakdown.
Don't Outcast Yourself, When Your Emotions Make You Feel "Zero"
Emotions are a big part of who you are. Everyone experiences them and they're a good thing. The way you react in certain situations however, is what make you a man or not. Beating yourself up over things you can't change only makes you weak and it will cause you to spiral into a depression, making it even harder to get out of.
Emotions like anger or hatred lead to a "zero" state. This is when you completely shut yourself off from the world, and you feel nothing at all. Everyone has felt this way at one point in their life, and when you're feeling this way, it's easy for others to push you around. It's easier to hurt you, and you have no way to fight back.
When you're in a "zero" state, you must endure whatever is thrown at you, whether it be verbal abuse or physical pain. Emotions don't exist for a "zero," and anyone who is in contact with them only sees a threat to their safety. This is what makes a "zero" dangerous, and it's up to society to keep them away from others.
The only way to get out of this emotionless state is to feel something. Anything. This can be difficult to do, but it's important to get out of it. When you feel something, your brain receives a message and you're able to react accordingly. If you remain emotionless, you become non-responsive. This is what happens to "zeros."
We are human beings and prone to mistakes,sometimes even we commit something really bad which can leads us towards the bad consequences but it doesn't mean that we always mourn for the things we did in past.If you realised your mistake that's OK,use it as a lesson to avoid it beinf in future but not to the extent of to ruin your future.