In this world we are too busy wherever we are. Either at work or at home trying to catch up with our housework, that's has been piling up for some time. We need help sometimes to get our tasks to be done faster, however we cannot always get the help we need, because everybody is as busy as we are.
In this article I want to talk about some techniques, that could work to persuade somebody to do anything for us. It is easier than you think. There are easy ways to convince people to do anything for you. It is better to convince them to try, rather than begging them or demanding. People are more likely to agree with or do what you ask if you can motivate them.
The first thing you must realize is that in order to get someone to do something, it does not matter how convincing you are. You will have to make a strong case and convince them of your point of view before they will even consider doing it. The best way to do this is to start off by being nice. This will give you an advantage over those, who might otherwise try to argue against you.
Remember to always be yourself. There is no point in trying to lie or acting in a way, that contradicts your personality. You need to make sure, that the people you are trying to convince care about you, this will make it easier for them to listen to what you have to say.
Ask The Impossible
Ask for things, that are very difficult to do or almost impossible. The reason, that you would get this type of help is that they are nice and like you. They might also feel as if they need to help you, since you would be asking for such an impossible task. Even if you don't get help straight away, the next time when you ask for a much easier task, they would gladly up for help. This is a nice way to ask for help and it should work most of the time.
Breaking down the task makes it easy for the potential helper. Tell them exactly what you want done. If they do not understand what you want, they are going to have a hard time trying to do it. Try to make it as simple as possible, yet still covering all bases. This way the person you are talking to can not say, that you did not give them enough information to work with.
Make Suggestions
Asking for suggestions actually shows you are thinking about the situation. Show that you are interested in the person and it also gives them a little more freedom. Because they are giving you suggestions, it shows that they want to help you and are probably thinking about what you have told them.
You should take their suggestions into consideration and if they help, great, if not, then change what you want based on what they suggested. You can always ask them why they suggested doing something a certain way. This gives you a good conversation topic as well.
Look For Common Interests
Sometimes when asking people to help you, it might help if you find something, that you both have in common. This can be anything from the same pet to favorite sports team. Whatever you choose to talk about, make sure that it is something that you know a lot about. For instance it would be best if you talked about sports, rather than cooking since they are going to have to cook for you as well as help you.
Make Sure To Return The Favor
This is an obvious one that everyone knows about, but it is still a big factor in making someone help you. If someone is going to help you, make sure you do something to return the favor. This can be as small as thanking them or as big as helping them out again in the future. Try to find a way, that is meaningful to the other person but do it. It will help you in the future.
Speak To Them As They Would Speak To You
This is one of the biggest factors in getting someone to help you. Asking politely and being considerate will always get you somewhere, when asking for favors from others. On the other hand, being a jerk is not going to win you any friends or good will. Be sure, that you are speaking to the person in a way, that they would address you. This is very important.
Make sure, that you are being respectful in your request for a favor. Also, make sure you are sincere in your thanks after receiving the favor. It never hurts to ask again for another chance, but if you are given the impression that you are a bother, then you need to stop asking.
Help Them Out First
The best way to get someone to help you is to help them first. This is a very important factor in getting anyone to do anything for you. Basically if you give, you shall receive.
Giving small gifts and helping people out is a good way to start a relationship off. For instance if you gave someone a gift and they weren't interested, then they aren't going to be more inclined to help you out. Giving a small gift such as a tea set, that you personalized can make a big impression.
Another way to help people is by doing menial labor for them. There are two major ways to do this. The first way is to offer to do the favor, but then claim that you would like something in return. This can be as simple as doing minor cleaning for them, or it can be as complex as helping them carry something.
The other way is to offer to do the favor without claiming anything in return. This is usually done when the person doing the asking, feels that they are going to be unable to accept the offer in the future if they do accept the offer.
Show Your Emotions
It is important to show how you feel, when asking someone for a favor. This can be as simple as being thankful or cheerful. The way you act when asking will determine how the person will react.
If you are being angry, or arrogant about your situation, don't be surprised if the other person isn't overly helpful. On the other hand if you are being polite, respectful, and showing that you mean the favor without expecting something in return, then you are more likely to get help.
Manage Your Time Wisely
In order to receive the most help from people you should try to keep the time, that you are interacting with them to a minimum. This is because the more you talk the less likely they are to help you. Same goes for the person helping you, if they aren't feeling like helping you out, then they aren't going to do it.
This doesn't mean, that you can't ever talk to them again, it just means, that you should limit the amount of time, that you are talking with them. Try to keep these tips in mind when interacting with people for help.
The Key To Getting Help Is To Ask The Right People
When asking for help, make sure that you are asking the right person. This can be done a few different ways. The first way is to ask for a person, who helps with fixing things. This could be a metal worker, who fixes broken objects, or someone who fixes electrical problems. The other way is to ask for a person, who can do physical labor. A carpenter would be an example of this.
The other way to find the right person is to ask for someone, who is in a position of authority. This can be a doctor, a teacher, or someone, who has power in a company. A police officer or military general would be an example of this. Which method you choose is up to you, but make sure that you find the right person.
Once you have found the right person ask the right questions. Explain your situation in detail. Be as specific about it as possible. This will help the person to understand your problem and help them to help you.
Conclusion
In this guide I have talked about different ways, that you can get help in life. In order to succeed you need a partner in crime, so make sure to talk to the right people. Find out what their needs and concerns are, because you never know when the time is going to come, when you'll need their help. The better prepared you are, the better off you will be.
As for me, I will do anything for someone if I felt that he/she deserves it. They will need to earn my trust and then live with the benefits of being friends and close to me :)