You know when it gets to talking on relationships, you can literally get peoples attention, because its one aspect that gets our minds skipping, we often feel to shy to let someone know what truly happens so it doesn't stain our ego we've been preserving, so we don't walk along this street one day and we overhead them saying "that's the girl or that's the boy that got dumped", so often times we hope someone would speak about the issue of break ups without we demanding them to and just giving us the solution we need while we act like we're not affected and less concerned.
So earlier today I decided to watch another inspirational video from one of my mentors " Gaul Gopal das" and how he elaborated on break ups in a relationship and how best one can deal with it, because like it or not its good to grow, grow out of every unpleasant situations and find a new niche for breathing. Already this helpful tips has proven good overtime because break ups isn't a rare occurrence, in fact it happens all the time to millions of people around the world, so you're not specially hated, you just can't alter someone's intention and seeing the change is constant, ones feeling towards you can change too.
So firstly Acceptance is a good way to start, accepting that you were hurt and letting yourself feel the pain from the hurting. Many people would like to act like they were not hurt by the event and by so doing they continually fight against their conscience. They might get us fooled into thinking they are alright, but it doesn't matter if they fool us or not, what can we do either ways, what do we care, the main solution comes from finding peace within yourself and lying to yourself is more of a worsening case, it slowly creates a shield where you don't want to think about it but you involuntarily think about it and because you try to hard not to think about it, you can't deal with it, this way you wouldn't come to face with it and just deal with it.
So let yourself know, accept that it made you feel bad, in fact feel bad, its okay, if you feel no symptoms there's no need taking drugs. You are together with millions of boys and girls going through same road, get a head start by being in the game, feel the pain, he or she hurt you so bad, oh yes admit it, even the most beautiful girls in the world gets divorce or cut off, you're only human too.
Secondly look for someone or somewhere you can let out some steam, there's so much negative energy from the pain, from the event, you might want to let it out so there would be space for refilling, just this time with positive vibe. So better still, find someone who is ready to listen, a confidential, a friend, not one to judge you, judgment can come later but not at that time, you need someone to understand you and agree with you, someone who both of you can insult the guy or lady together, someone on your side, scream together, go doing crazy stuffs while watching your back, remember you're angered so you might not be acting right, so get someone sensible, so you don't get into more trouble as a result of letting out some steam.
Its OK to cry, to scream, to shout, even the guys too, guys aren't exempted, we go through emotional trauma too, even worse because everyone expect us to deal with it as a man, without given us the needed attention as we should. However we too must let go of the wrong energy to allow positive ones reside in us.
Now that's its done, you wanna think of the way forward, a way you want to go by, thinking of a way forward is solely dependent on the Individual. Everyone has got their different healing capacity, some are good to go the next day after a break up, some months, some even years, however the healings starts with ones deliberate act to deal with it.
The way forward might be to find love in another person, it can also be not to date again as we often see, but whatever your choice would be, make sure it comes from a rational thinking, a well and good reason and not emotional, don't seek an avenue to punish others for your pain, don't view another person through the eyes of your ex, everyone is different, give another a fair chance to express his affection for you, this is why you must deal with the past before you enter a new one. Dealing with your break up is very important. If you're also choosing to remain single, ensure it's rather rational and don't starve yourself of what can be yours, one bad orange doesn't mean the whole basket is bad. Nevertheless no one can choose a decision you've made up your mind about. Just ensure you choose right, cause sooner than later life would give a lesson, if we are right or wrong in our selection.
No doubt break ups are bad and traumatic, but let's ensure to find peace within ourselves, letting go of all hate, and having nothing but love to give out. We are good people, let's remain so.
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