Why my MIL is Toxic AF

For over a year now I have been in a relationship. Although I got along with my boyfriends mother originally, everything changed after we got together. Since her son and I got serious, she has hated me. Thought I'm not entirely sure why I do know part of the reason is that she wanted a church girl handpicked by her or a Newfie girl for her son.

She has gone from disapproving of our relationship to being downright toxic. This is actually an understatement. We are living with her as with things the way they are, we have no choice currently especially since we have a baby (He'll be 5 months tomorrow)

Here's just some (no this isn't everything and I'm sure there's plenty I don't know) of the reasons I call her toxic:

The biggest one, She knows something I'm allergic to and put it into the stuffing at Christmas knowing it's my favorite. dish. Thankfully I didn't eat it because it seemed off to me. I even overheard her tell her friend there was 'two whole lots of it in the dressing at Christmas and she doesn't know' This a month after I gave birth to her only grandchild.

She once told her friend 'Well he (her son) can have the cookies but if she touches them, I hope she chokes.'

She told people I don't have patience for a crying baby because I went to bed while his dad was looking after him for a while. By that point, my boyfriend had already been telling me to go to bed since I had been up for almost 48 hours straight.

She claims I don't do anything to take care of our son even though I change his diapers, feed him, bathe him, cuddle him and otherwise care for him.

She got mad and said I don't care about him because when he was sleeping, I fell asleep on the couch.

She also claims I don't love my son because he's a boy. I love both my children.

She got mad at me for refusing to give him gripe water when he didn't need it. She said 'Well my boy lived off it.' We give it to him when needed only.

She told me I don't take care of him properly because when when he was about 2 months old, I refused to put cereal in his bottles to 'keep him full'

She calls me 'The Queen' 'Mrs. Know It All' 'The Asshole' and 'Fat Ass' behind my back.

When she made his bottle incorrectly, too much water for the amount of formula, she whined that we got mad at her and 'it's not a big deal.'

She complained about our parenting because we use baby wipes to clean him when we change his diaper because she says we should use face cloths instead to clean him after he poops.

She said we're irresponsible because 'that baby doesn't even know what breakfast lunch and dinner is.' Again, he's only going on 5 months.

She constantly bitches about my daughter. Just today she said to her friend 'Well the other day she (my daughter) came out with a bowl of ice cream. I'd like to know how she got it. She didn't ask me I didn't even know it was there.' I bought the ice cream and I gave some to my daughter. If she wants something my boyfriends mother has, I tell her to ask her but she does not need her permission for something I bought.

She also said 'I'm tired of her always drinking all my juice so the other day I was sure she was going to get into it so I took a big glass and just left a little tiny bit in the bottle. I;m sick of her drinking all my juice.' One, That particular bottle wasn't hers. Her son bought that one for me. Two, I rarely drink juice. I have maybe a glass a week if that. Her and my boyfriend are the big juice drinkers.

This woman is honestly driving me nuts and as soon as I can, we are getting out of here. Only problem is that could be a while.