Are you truly ready to get married?
I think this is a question every persons planning to get married should ask themselves. Are you ready?
Being not ready does not mean you are not you are not old enough to get married because that is what lots of people judge being ready with. Age is not only the factor to getting married, there are series of things to look out for.
Things that determines if you are truly ready
Love according to the dictionary is the mutual feeling between two people. Love is a very essential factor in marriage, love should be the driving force towards marriage not lust. It is such a pity that what is driving alot of people these days isn't love anymore, it is lust. Even if we see the potential in another person, we would prefer to go with the one that either has more money or that has a more defined shape (that would still change on the long run). We should make sure we get married to the person we love and loves us too not to the person that love us but we don't love and vice versa. Do not allow matchmaking, don't feel you are getting old and just get married to anybody anyhow or to someone you really don't know well but was matchmade for you.
The couple must be matured enough to get married. We have some aspects of maturity in which you must possess all in order to be regarded as being truly matured.
Age maturity: You must be matured in age, though some people might just say that age is just a number, ofcourse age is just a number but you must attain some particular age before you can be regarded as been matured. Do not rush too early into marriage, as you grow older, you gain more knowledge and have more experiences. So age is an important factor of maturity.
Psychological and emotional maturity: If you cannot take the stress of heartbreak and your heart is too flexible, it's better you wait till when you are emotionally fit. I'm not saying your spouse or spouse to be will break your heart, what I'm saying is that you don't know what the future holds so you got to be psychologically stable. We seen some cases where by the wife learnt that the husband has another wife and children outside of the marriage and the next thing the wife did is to kill herself. If we look into it very well, we would realize that the wife isn't psychologically fit to be married. It is important we check our mental health before thinking of getting married.
We also should be financially independent when thinking of getting married. Let's be frank with ourselves, marriage comes with a lot of responsibilities that requires financial contribution. If you are planning to have a sweet and stress free relationship, then you must be financially stable. Being financially stable does not mean that you should have all the money or luxury in the world, it simply means you should have at least enough money or resources to cater for yourself and your partner.
Also when I say financially stable, I'm not limiting it to a particular gender, even we the ladies must be financially stable, we don't have to always depend on the man. We should try as much as possible to support our spouses in paying the bills. One gender should not overly depend on the other gender, it weakens a relationship. We should also think of the children we would be bringing into the world, we have to start planning how to cater for them right from when we are in a relationship. If it is difficult to cater for yourselves now, how then do you expect to cater for your kids when you have them? Or tell me, do you want to bring innocent kids to the world just to suffer?
To be continued...
Published date: 30th of April, 2022 Published time: 22: 22 pm (WAT) Author: oyinwrites