Every youth has the dream to wed fabulously one day. Ladies in particular have a particular dream wedding. If you ask an average Lady how she wants her future wedding to be. She will tell you she wants at least certain number of attendants, the ceremony should be held in London or Dubai. Believe it or not, everyone has its own fantasy that most likely will not come true. What about the fantasy in terms of dream husband and wife? Most youth has this high taste when it comes to that.
Some wants a wedding with thousands of attendants. Some, if not most guys are not concerned on the number of people who attend their wedding. Does it really matter the amount of people attending a wedding ceremony? I mean, there are people who are obligated to be there, such as the religious leader, the parent of both couples, the close relatives and few friends. However, youth of this generation are not that interested in those ones. They take special interest in making sure their ex girlfriends and ex boyfriends attend the wedding, to see what they have been missing. They try to make the girl they chase but never had jealous. It would be good if it ends there. The guys usually invites fellow guys who once fought on the supposed bride so the guys can feel jealous and pained on what they are missing. Girls usually take this more personal. They take pleasure in inviting girls who had at one time or the other wanted to have their supposed groom. The aim is of nothing else than to feel on top of the the world.
The race now begins to balance space with the amount of people invited. While sending numerous invitations, they usually forget about their budget. If the budget at hand could only afford a 1,000 capacity Hall, and out of arrogance, they've invited 2,000 individuals excluding themselves. They then begin to find a way to borrow money to make ends meet. They begin to ask for help to balance the books. Here, the wedding cloth, popularly known as aso ebi comes in. A wedding cloth supposed to be sold for five thousand naira is multiplied and sold for twenty thousand naira. Mind you, you must buy the cloth at any amount it is called or you'll be taken as enemy of their wedding. In fact, you must pay the money weeks or months before getting yours.
What about the catering department? As known and expected, everyone must be served. Do not forget, the more the amount of people invited, the more the quantity of food must be. And the food must be in best possible quality, because plenty people has been invited out of arrogance, so they must be well served with quality food to leave a high taste impression on them. The excess money gotten from wedding cloth had been used for the purchase of the Hall. Now, they often turn to cooperatives for this. If either or both has a good standard job, they take loan from their respective working place. All these effects will only be felt after the wedding ceremony.
What about the wedding gown? Ladies do want a very high class wedding gown. One which is ordered from abroad. A wedding gown that will flow from the alter to the front door and sweep away all dirt on the road. The wedding suit also must be top notch. It must be one ordered from abroad and eye catching. This aspect is very important as it is what they show off to their ex boyfriends and girlfriends invited to see how fulfilled they have been.
Here comes the crux of it all : The honeymoon. Even before marriage proposals, most ladies already have in mind where they want to do their honeymoon. However, some do settle for less on this, given the fact that a lot had been already spent on the wedding ceremony. Nevertheless, the very rich ones fulfill their fantasies traveling to special places for the once in lifetime event. You see people do wedding in Nigeria traveling to Paris in France for honeymoon. People who do wedding in Asia traveling to Dubai for honeymoon and so on.
Here is my conclusion, everyone should cut his coat according to his own size. Before making plans, before inviting numerous unnecessary spectators, check your budgets first. There have been report of people starving after fabulous Mouth watering wedding. Some couples even fight on debt payment after the wedding. This is as a result of planning out of budget. If you should borrow, borrow what you can pay conveniently with ease. At the end, what matters is the marriage. Wedding is must a ceremony for a day, while marriage starts after wedding. Marriage is lifetime! Invest more on life in marriage than on wedding. Give your kids quality health and educational life. That is how it should be!.
