Let go of your past and move on

Good evening everyone, it's nice being here again after Monday's stress. It has been a stressful day and a very sad atmosphere for Nigerian federal university students when the lecturing body union, ASUU decided to extend the already prolonged one month warning strike by two months. At the time I heard this, I couldn't just phantom it, it made me real weak because I was already thinking we were resuming this week but it seems like we have extra eight weeks. I cannot even imagine how old I'll be before I graduate from this school, it's really depressing and sad but all situations must be maximized to optimum advantage and it's my plan to harness the strike to build myself either in a skill or financially or even both and I'm sure that's the plan of most students too...

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Continuing on my addiction on the Ask Steve show, I'm already officially addicted and it's already in my plan to save up some money and buy a ticket to watch his show possibly with my babe too. So help me God... I stumbled on an episode where he was asked by a lady what to do when she feels stuck in a relationship.

This lady claimed to have been dating her boyfriend for six years and he's yet to propose which means he's either not serious with her or he doesn't feel he is enough to get married yet and she doesn't seem to have the patience she had six years ago anymore. This is a very delicate topic to talk about because after six years of attachment to one person, it is very difficult to jump out of such a relationship and start familiarizing yourself to a new person except she wasn't faithful in the first place.

Steve Harvey had to reflect back to when he was younger and everyday he came back home, he'd tell his momma that he needed to get another car but his mother will always reply him with "get the old car out of the garage". He didn't take it serious because he was waiting to get a new car before he takes the old one out. One day, he decided to heed to what his mom has been saying, he paid a towing car to help me take it out and he got the car out and made the garage clean. He got another car that same week. He asked his mom why she kept saying that he had to clear the garage and she told him that "before a new thing can come in, you have to make provision for it."

In the case of this lady, she has been with him for six years and she is scared of letting all these years waste and go for nothing even when she knows the guy isn't ready yet. It's really hard to start all over again but think about it if it's worth to stay and keep counting years till he says he's ready which isn't even sure yet.

Men and women are wired differently, ladies want to marry at a reasonably young age but guys are not age driven when it comes to marriage. The man has a financial clock but the woman has a clock of nature. No guy will conveniently want to marry a lady before he attains financial stability unless he's forced to and this is exactly the issue we have with ladies because we tend to wait till we're financially stable but ladies keep counting on nature.

In my own view, this is how to balance it. When you start dating, let your spouse know what level of financial stability you want to attain before marriage. I think this is going to help both parties reach an agreement in such a way that they can both be of assistance to each other and build a family that's worth emulating. Your spouse's assistance to attain your financial stability is the best testimony a couple can have.

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