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I have read a lot of posts regarding parenting and I have read quite a lot of views on it too and I would like to speak on this as well.

Most people need to understand that parenting goes beyond the ability to just have a baby. There are so many things involved that if care is not taken, we would be causing more dangers for our world.

My friend, @George_Dee said something and there is so much sense in what he shared. He spoke about how most people don't even factor their economic status into it before raising children. I think it is also wrong to keep producing children without the means to cater for them. As a parent, you are causing more trouble to society especially when you still fail to teach them morals, asked them to fend for themselves and you didn't give them the basic education that is expected of every child.

Children are blessings, no doubt and in my language, they used to share a proverb which I have to disagree with. They would say "What a child would feed on, the child would come with it into the earth." How? No child is coming with any means of sustenance because the child is the sole responsibility of the parents and how you train and raise them would in a way determine how they would turn out. We have more children roaming the streets trying to fend for themselves because their parents lacked the capacity.

This is not to blame the parents for lacking the capacity because I understand that life happens, but we need to learn how to raise children that we can at least cater for that won't be too much of a burden for us. Having multiple children is not a competition and most people need to stop treating it as one. I know the basic thinking of most African parents is to give birth to as many as possible so no one would 'mock' them. We need to stop thinking in this way and hold our values true - leaving better children for our world and not allowing them to repeat the mistakes that we made.

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Parenting is the ability to raise godly children or nurture children of worth and value. It is about being intentional and leading a life worthy of emulation. You can't lead a different life and expect your child to model it. You need to be able to point them in the right direction in words and deeds.

Most of the issue we have in this world is as a result of bad parenting and it is sad. Being a parent means you will be ever-present in the life of your child to guide and guard them in the way of truth. I understand not everyone wants to be a parent and that is fine but the moment you have decided to become a parent you need to rise to the occasion. You made love to a lady and she got pregnant and you called the baby a mistake. How is the baby a mistake? You made love without protection, what were you expecting, a plasma TV?

As a parent, presence and purpose go together. It is because of that purpose that we need the presence. You need to be an ever-present figure in the life of your child. Don't act like an Ostrich. Do we know how Ostriches treat their younger ones? We need to read about it.

As a parent, you need to know your children. Be sensitive to the changes in their moods and actions. Let them trust you and be free enough to tell you just about anything while you reciprocate it with honesty and talking to them as though they understand. If you won't be available to train your child, there is no crime if you decide against having one. They need attention and care.

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You are the one to model the life you want them to live. We have so many negative influences around in the world, starting from the internet to their schools and all that but model a lifestyle for them so they at least know the truth. Let them see you live the things you are telling them - lead by example. Your words and actions must match because if it doesn't they will know. We have smarter kids in this generation. You cannot tell them not to steal or lie if that's what they always see you do. The moment you nurture them with a negative mindset it will soon become their nature. Be conscious about the things you say and do.

You have to be able to strike a balance of loving them and discipline them. When you rebuke them for something you have to explain to them why you did it so they will understand that it came from a place of love and not because you despise them or you want to intentionally punish them.

Parenting is not about Biology. You need to understand the different stages in the life of your child or children. Relate with them as though you are friends. It doesn't mean they will disrespect you but they would be more open to tell you things. You need to balance your emotions well so you won't push them away when they tell you anything serious because the moment they tell you something and you overreact, that's the end of them opening up to you. Each child needs a different level of relation. The things you will tell a child of 10 years old and the way you would engage that child would be different from a child of 18 years of age. Be sensitive to their needs and moods.

Lastly, you need God. I know we all have a different understanding of this and I won't impose but as a parent, the Bible is a perfect guide for us on how to live and train our children, so we need to set them on the path of the Lord so even when we are not with them, with the access they have to the Word of God and its understanding of it, they can always continue in it.

Thank you for your time.

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True.The Bible is the perfect guide for us on how to live and train our children, that's what Bible says'at 2Timothy 3:16- All scripture are inspired by God and beneficial for teaching, for reproving,for setting things straight,for disciplining in righteousness. So, we have to appreciate the Word of God and always pray to Him to guide us so that we will be a successful trainor, mentor and a good parents to our children.πŸ˜„πŸ˜˜ Thank you for sharing your article Sir Olasquare.☺️

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Every time I watch the tv and see a family with children who looks neglected and malnourished, I felt really bad and pity the family especially the child. What I don't understand is when a family who cannot support themselves keep on making more children and giving their children a hard life. That's not fair. The kids shouldn't be born in the world because they just want to make love and not thinking how are we going to give a good life to our children. Poor children have to suffer.

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Thank you so much for this, Momma. It is something I struggle to understand too and it's painful. Why would anyone not make plans for a child that would need a parent's support for as long as possible? It's not fair as you have said and it is pure wickedness that stems out of selfishness and callousness. We need to give proper orientation to most people because it looks like they are in the dark regarding how the world is presently.

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Great layout of parenting guide. We should always be conscious of this "No child is a mistake to God" I just finished a movie in which most of the children in it feel they were a mistake to their parents because even the parents kept reminding them of it.

It's sad how the person that brought you to the world sees you as a mistake. Why did they even engage in an intercourse in the first place? Well, every parent should love their kids no matter how they got them. Train and nurture them according to God's word and principles. No one should ever think of bringing a child to this world and leaving them all by themselves.

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Thank you very much for this brilliant input. Absolutely, no child is a mistake.

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The pleasure is mine. Happy to stop by

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You made me laugh when you said do they expect plasma TV 🀣🀣🀣🀣 Most people believe more Children means they will eat the fruit of their labors in many ways. But how will they do that if they fail to train this children?

You can't just keep giving birth to children like hen when you don't have means of taking care of them. Have a child and train him or her in the best way, you will have peace than dropping children without any training in their lives, such parents can never rest.

Above all, parents should endeavor to inculcate good morals into their lives.

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Hahaha. The Plasma thing πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ€£. Exactly dear...having multiple children and not training them, they will end up robbing the parents of their peace. It's a major problem waiting to manifest in the future.

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I thought I was the only one laughing about that plasma TV of a thing hahahaha

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πŸ˜…πŸ˜… it was really funny jare

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I bet it was😏

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You know I just had to laugh about that Plasma TV of a thing. Or maybe they were expecting something else hahaha, perhaps a Benz lol.

I have a friend who wants just two children or three at most. I asked him why, and he said that he wanted to be able to commune one on one with his children and be able to teach them, educate them and train them to his best ability with the help of God's word. I did find that very interesting. He said having too many children may hinder that free flow and communication.

And then being financially stable before birthing kids is as good as planning to live in the best house and driving the best car. Like my sister would say, she can never let her children suffer. She can't bring them forth to this world to suffer. So I believe if one isn't up to the task of properly taking care of a baby then they shouldn't even think of having one.

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Absolutely, my dear and that your friend is very wise and intentional about the growth of those children. We need to give birth to the ones we know we can cater and have adequate time for because life is full of challenges and we need to factor that in.

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I am sure he is. And yes you are right. If we can carter for 10 kids like me, then sure why not?πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ Let's give it that shot lol. Just kidding though 🀭

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