I love love, I love being in love and I don't care what it does to me hahaha. Love is strong and powerful. Love is a feeling you feel when you feel you are feeling a feeling you have never felt before. Love is like rain, so gentle and pure, like a secret, so hard to share.
Love is such a beautiful thing that no one can ever deny no matter how it is conceived. Love can happen even in the most unexpected places. I have seen people find love in Church, on the street, in the mall, in the bus or the coach. I have even seen some fall in love in the zoo. The hippopotamus is my witness on that last one haha.
On a lighter note, love requires commitment. I am always confused when people claim to be in love but their head is not in it. I don't blame them, really, but there is definitely something holding them back which might be their past experiences. The issue is never to go into a relationship when you haven't healed. There is a healing process that should take place which would allow you to give your best in the next relationship. Don't rush thing.
Someone joked that when you are driving and you are kissing, you are not giving that kiss the attention it deserves. The same thing is when you accept to date someone but your head is not in it, you are not giving that relationship the attention it deserves. Don't let someone else pay for the mistakes of what another person caused. There is no crime in saying no and the moment you agree to date the person, then let your efforts show.
How do you claim to love someone and you are not motivated to speak to them in a day? It is understandable if you are not like that before and life happens, then your partner can understand but right from the get-go, you have never been motivated to reach out or speak with the person. Can we call that 'Love across the border' instead?
Love and commitment go hand in hand. You cannot love without getting out of your comfort zone while still holding to your values. You don't have to be too relaxed and watch your partner jump the hurdle for you while you wouldn't even jump a puddle for him or her. A relationship is a call to commitment. If you cannot stand the heat, then leave the kitchen.
There would always be down moments but the communication and the connection that you have built over time would help you both get through it. Most people don't have enough in their tank and this is why the moment they run out of fuel, they crash. They don't have enough happening between them so the moment a situation arises, they feel like quitting and letting go.
Never be afraid of saying goodbye to a relationship that is not adding value to you. If you are worse off than when you met the person, that is a major deal-breaker. You need to prioritize your happiness too. There should be mutualism in a relationship. I know our commitment level would always differ which is fine, but at least try. Make an effort. Do something. Don't go all soaking it in without making the other person feel valued and loved too.
When someone hurts you, it is not love that is wicked but that person that showed inconsideration to hurt you. Many people say love is wicked but love is not. Love is still the best remedy for a broken heart. Imagine someone going to another person claiming to be you. That person hurt that person with your name. Is it right for the person that was hurt to say you hurt them when you were impersonated? Love is not wicked but those who claim they love you but never did.
Never ignore the warning signs. Learn to study their content before feeding it to your soul. A lot of people will come with different agenda and sound convincing but it is up to you to decide who is worth fighting for and who isn't.
Learn to heal from your hurt. Learn to move on and if you have to take gradual steps to achieve that, by all means, please do. Never let someone's inability to see your worth prevent you from giving another person a chance and when you give that chance, be ready to stay committed. I know the fear would pop in once in a while but focus on the moment while looking out for the warning signs but never allow it to stop you from feeling. That's one of the essences of living, you have to feel.
Courage is not the absence of fear but the presence of fear yet the will goes on. You might want to be hesitant but deal with each person according to how they value you and if you don't feel valued, please leave. Find someone ready to match up with committing to you as you would too.
Some people use the word Love for fun. But for me, love is sacred. Don't utter this word to someone if you don't really mean it because as what you said Love requires commitment.😊