People leave and when I mean leave, there are many ways by which people can leave our lives and death seem to be the only painful one because you might not get to see that person ever again except for the memories we have to hold on to, hoping and praying nothing happens that would make us forget that face, that smile and even those moments shared. It's also painful when someone you are cool with suddenly just drifts from you or you drift from the person. I know how that feels for a few times where I saw people leave and I pulled away from people too but I know I am the type that love keeping my friends. I won't let go unless you asked me to. I will stay up and fight but sometimes I know there is nothing left worth fighting for and just take the high road.
A lot of people come into our lives and it is normal to get attached to their presence. I have seen others build a wall around themselves too because they have been broken by someone who left and they wouldn't want a repeat of that experience, so they guide and guard their hearts and try to push people away in any way that they can.
It is normal to feel hurt and even broken when someone leaves and even more painful when they leave without a warning or a reason. They leave you with more questions than answers. You can't place your fingers as to what went wrong or if it was something you did or they just grew out of loving you due to someone that came along the way. It's interesting to note that those who have the power to hurt us are those with whom we have let our guards down - I mean those whom we have come to love, trust and even expected never to hurt us because they understand us and know us the most.
The truth is, things won't always go the way we have always wanted especially where human beings are concerned. Humans will always act like humans - unpredictable. Stop getting yourself worked up and get ready not to expect too much except you are ready to give that much and that person is willing to go that length too. A relationship can expire as sad as that may sound, especially when their purpose has been served, so learn to move on no matter how hard it is. Stop holding on to irrelevant things and never allow people to determine your worth.
Kiss people goodbye and don't beg people to stay in your life when they don't want to. Let people go and stop hanging on people whose relevance has expired in your life or those who are willing to walk away from you. If they can walk away, learn to close the door too. A natural human would go to where they are celebrated rather than where they are tolerated. A forced relationship doesn't help anyone. If anyone is willing to walk away from everything you have both built together then there is no point crying over them. Choose your focus and in as much as it looked like you have lost so much, remember that you have gained too.
We have some set of people who would gladly walk away from you with the belief that they can come back whenever they choose, never allow them to meet you where they left you.
Don't try too much to sweet talk people into staying with you or loving you because this is the kind of thing that should come naturally to them if they truly care. We need to think with our heads and our hearts. Don't give anyone the moral right to determine your mood. Value yourself that much. I am not saying you won't grieve them or miss their absence, of course, you would, but learn to move on, you owe yourself that much.
Never place your own life on hold while they walk away and move on. If anyone treats you like a joke, try and leave them like it's funny. Don't lose your sense of worth, while trying to hold on to what's gone. Don't sell yourself short and don't give a discount either. This is why you need to appreciate the people that you have in your space. Maybe we meet a few bad people in life so that when we meet the good ones we can learn to appreciate them. You've been doing fine before they came and you will be fine when they close that door. It shows their work is done, so flip the next page because I am sure it gets interesting going forward.
You don't always have to be in a bad place with people. There are some that things just didn't quite work out and you still stay in touch and that's fine. I am talking about those who left without thinking twice - without remorse and explanations for their actions. Some think you can't move on without them and you have to prove them wrong, at least for yourself. Never hold anyone by the button to be heard, you should rather hold your tongue than them. Your life shouldn't be defined by those who left. We lose people in different ways.
Sometimes, it doesn't mean these people are terrible people it just means their part in your story is done. When someone leaves, your story has not ended but rather a new chapter is about to unfold.
Thank you for your time.
Though it hurts when some people leave you but it's just a sign that they are done with you. I don't care who stays or leave because I believe two things. When people come into your life, they either leave you with regrets or lesson to learn from them. Those who stays still have their mission in your life and we need to be careful with them.
When they leave, it is time to keep going and focus on your purpose in life.