I Can't Understand...

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Below is the beginning of a sentence which you need to finish. Explain what the thing is and why you answered as you did.

"I don't understand people who..."

I don't understand people who react rather than respond and after the dust settles they have no decency to apologize.

As humans, we always want to find excuses for our actions and of course, I've done quite a bit of that too but that doesn't make it okay to react especially when someone is trying to give you a voice of reason. It takes humility to admit your wrongs and then learn how to do it better. I've been fortunate to receive a lot of guidance from a lot of people here and I am better for it. Perfect? I am far from it but ready to learn? Sign me up for it, please.

We all know how Plagiarism is a thing we should frown at because no one should profit off the work of another person without the person's permission. The event that happened earlier this week is something I can never understand how someone would choose to correct you and you still went all out to resort to name calling. I can never understand it because it takes humility to accept corrections and only those with their sanity still intact can accept such.

I read a post one day and the action of that user that was mentioned in that post is something I can never understand. I don't understand people who can't take to correction and would rather react rather than respond. You clearly plagiarized and you got punishment given to you, the best you can do is to be humble enough to accept it and do things better (if you don't know). The action of that user means he knows and he wanted to feel good about his actions. He wants everyone to turn a blind eye to it rather than accept it and his way of lashing out is his way of telling himself it's okay which it isn't.

As I said, I am no angel. I had a similar issue (of course not plagiarized content) around May. It was precisely May 26th and I was awake that day, feeling a bit down (this isn't me trying to justify myself) but most people that know me close know May 26th is the anniversary of my dad's death. I wasn't feeling it and it wasn't long that midnight when I got a message that I was reaping the reward pool for Posh Tokens unfairly. The first thing I did was lash out without trying to understand what he was saying. Clearly, if I had listened and read it well, I would have understood what he meant. He was telling me it was never okay to share my Twitter links with others because it shows I have selected and repeated sets of people liking those Twitter links which doesn't seem fair to the others.

I apologized later when my head was calm and it was then I got my punishment too because he withdrew his support on one of my posts and I got banned from earning on Posh Tokens while I also burned 300 of the Posh Tokens on his advice as well to show fairness. I could have resorted to name calling after I apologized too but this was on me. I was the one that messed up by sharing links which I shouldn't have and in all honesty, I didn't know and those I sent links to that also sent to me, I had to tell them to stop either else they would risk being banned.

The same thing applies to the user I mentioned earlier, the best thing to do is to understand that you don't know everything and that wasn't the best way to go about being found out by name calling and throwing of abuse. It's the human thing to do to lash out, especially when certain things meet us at unexpected moments but still, it's never right and never the way to go about it because you also don't know the state the other person is in. Imagine if the person being abused started trading insults with him as well, look how messy that would be but he knows better than to throw his pearl self to the pigs.

Why did I answer like I just did? It's simple... No one knows it all and we all make mistakes but when you are lucky enough to have someone call you to order, the best way isn't to lash out or react regardless of what you are going through. Think...then speak... This would have saved a lot of issues and clearly would have saved me too with the Posh Token issue. Think... speak... Has helped me ever since that time because I have posted in the wrong community twice and I was called to order. I immediately apologized and vowed never to try that again.

I don't understand and can never understand people who find it so hard to take to correction when it is so clear they are the ones on the wrong side of the situation. Learn and grow, think before you speak and know that it's not in your place to feel hard done by when it's clear that you are the one that got things all wrong; deliberately or even by mistake.

Thank you for your time.

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2 years ago

Huh?

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2 years ago

Mistake happens by everyone but some are too honest to make an apology while some are leasr bothered. Anyway you have done the right thing by apology so your mind is free. The other person was cunning enough to make use of this opportunity . Anyway truth always wins.

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2 years ago

I like that...truth always win. We just have to understand that mistakes happen and we have to learn from it while not allowing our emotions to always get the better of us.

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2 years ago

Yes exactly

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2 years ago

Yes.

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2 years ago

That's their defence mechanism and sometimes they lack acceptance and understanding. It's hard for some to admit they did wrong. And apologizing hurts their ego.

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2 years ago

Yes, they would rather act out than apologize. I don't know why they are even having any ego when they are clearly wrong in the first place. It takes humility to learn and apologize.

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2 years ago

We all make mistakes but we should learn from these mistakes also. I want to complete this sentence as If you allow me brother. I don't understand why people mourn after death of a person although they have teased him during his life?.

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2 years ago

Death is not something to tease others about. It's okay to mourn when someone means something to you.

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2 years ago

Taking corrections and acting accordingly won't hurt but we fail to apologize and lash out instead. When we are open to correction and act on them we bring people closer. I am sorry for what happened to you but you did learn your lesson. Hopefully, you get their supports back.

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2 years ago

There are better ways to go about things. There are ways you can apologize and let peace reign. It's funny how someone copied someone's content and was still angry because he was exposed to the point of calling another person names. It's funny to me 😂🤣

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2 years ago

People would do things funny to cover up their mess but to them it seems logical whereas in reality it isn't.

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2 years ago

I wonder if they would take it if someone tried that with them.

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2 years ago

They won't.. They will not accept anything close to it.

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2 years ago

They are not ready for growth. That's why they can't grow.

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2 years ago

Hmmm..true

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2 years ago

😊🤗🤗🤗

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2 years ago

😁😁😁

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2 years ago

A simple apology can save us a lot of stress and time when we make a mistake but some people let pride get in the way and will still try to justify their wrongdoings

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2 years ago

It's just foolishness to me because you can only have pride when you are in the right path not when you are absolutely wrong.

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2 years ago

I guess they are foolish enough to thing they are on the right path 😂

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2 years ago

That's the word; foolishness. 🤣😂🤣😂

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2 years ago

There are many people who make mistakes but do not admit their mistakes. Even though he knows he made a mistake, he has no regrets. There are many such people.

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2 years ago

That's the annoying part...he had no regrets and he lashed out instead which doesn't make sense to me.

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2 years ago

There are people like that my friend. Even me I don't understand with them. They don't want to see their mistakes and what they did they still continue and act nothing happens. They don't even realize their doings.

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2 years ago

They know they are wrong and because they feel others should look away rather than correct them, they get angry unnecessarily.

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2 years ago

Yes that's true my friend that's why they became spoiled and they became worse more.

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2 years ago

I hope they learn. No one knows it all and they need to remember that.

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2 years ago

I'm hoping also my friend. There's a lot of time and chances to change and to start a new.

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2 years ago

Absolutely and the time is now. Now is the best time for anything.

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2 years ago

Yes my friend olasquare that's why we should start already.

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2 years ago

I agree with you.

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2 years ago

Sometimes offensive people have this defense mechanism. They turn against the one who is correcting and take offense. Sometimes we make mistakes as human beings and we do not realize it.

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2 years ago

That's so true. We all make mistakes and it takes humility to apologize. I agree, people like that are offensive and take offense all the time.

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2 years ago

I know those kind of people are literally have a bad ego. They don't wanna feel the shame for their mistakes and so they chooses to act that they are not affected with their wrong doings and instead they will stick on proving their self. They will stick on believing that what they did wasn't wrong, as accepting it would make them look weak. Sometimes conflicts is all about bad ego, and that's what I don't understand about people, as they tend to saved their ego than saving their own reputations.

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2 years ago

I love how you perfectly explained every aspect of this. They don't want to feel the shame of their mistakes because it makes them look helpless. It takes a heart that wants to learn to accept mistakes.

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