Pains of Unrequited Love

Have you ever felt connected with someone you know, but you never do no matter how much you try to reach that person?

Even when you push yourself and go all out, they never seem to notice you, making you sad; you feel like giving up, but you don't.

I wanted to try writing some lines today, I was working on them yesterday, and I wanted to check if they are good. Even if I am not very good at it, but I hope you enjoy reading it.

"Nights when I can't sleep,

I heave a sigh to myself,

I feel kind of lonely,      

Wondering what you are doing, I picked up an orange, and it reminded me of a poem. 

A seed in a vast landscape sprouted roots, 

It bore a fruit that wants to turn orange as soon as possible, by basking in your light, 

My ideas and dreams keep on flourishing; why can't you notice it already,

Today, I ate an orange, But I cried because it was still sour,

It reminds me of myself so I couldn't throw it away, So I ate it all,

I love you; it makes me cry."

Of all the emotions that I have felt, love is the most complicated and exciting one. Sometimes we don't choose who we have feelings for in our lives, so we sometimes get hurt when things don't go as planned.

Irrespective of our class, education, social standing, ambitions, we sometimes find ourselves falling for someone, even when they don't feel the same way about us.

Humans are social beings, so we constantly search for someone compatible with us. 

It is not easy to find our second half in this fast-paced world, and when we find that person, we may have feelings for a person that are not reciprocated. Numerous reasons cause this, such as lack of chemistry, will, or different socioeconomic preferences.

I am sure we all have read stories on unrequited love, those stories that leave you sad and thinking for hours because you thought they would end up together, but they didn't.

Even if it is important not to shy away from relationships, you must know when you are not appreciated. Loving yourself is far more critical than having a love of so many people.

Unrequited love can affect your self-esteem and hinder your ability to live your life.

When you realize your feelings aren't being reciprocated, it can be very hurtful. You may feel like killing yourself sometimes, but always remember you are the most important person to yourself.

It is essential to learn from unrequited love and move on to find someone who will love you the way you deserve. It is not worth beating yourself up and always thinking of someone who won't love you the way you love them.

As we all know, unrequited love is a situation where you love someone without them loving you back, and I am sure most of us may have experienced this growing up, maybe in high school where our youth was starting.

Unrequited love comes in two ways:

. You are in a relationship with the person, but they stop appreciating you over time, and their feelings for you start waning. 

This type may be the worst because the person you love the most stops loving you, and it mostly happens in marriages. 

A marriage of 20 years could stop because one partner stops loving the other, which would be the worst situation in the world.

. The other type of unrequited love is a situation where your interest in someone isn't reciprocated the way you want it to.

You think you are alright, but slowly but surely, you start feeling the pain, and you may not know what is causing it.

 All you know is you were rejected, and you constantly question yourself as to what caused it. You start finding faults in your body, lifestyle and start losing confidence in yourself.

You are in significant pain, but you can't tell anyone about it because you are insecure and think they would make fun of you. 

You pretend you are alright in front of them when you are dying inside. 

Seeing your crush walk by makes you sad, but you try putting up a smile to lie to yourself; you were rejected, and there is nothing you can do about it.

Some signs show when you are caught in this situation, such as:

. You get jealous when your crush spends time with others, even when they are not yours.

. You are giving everything, but you receive nothing.

. You constantly feel underappreciated.

. There is no physical contact.

It is not easy overcoming this trial, but you should always try to come out of it because it is not good to dwell on something that won't work out.

Acceptance is the first stage to overcoming it; learn to accept that the person would never love you as you love them, recognize the grief, let it go, and move on with your life. 

Repressing your emotions will not heal the wounds; it will only deepen them, instead some time out to grieve and slowly accept what happened and look onto the future.

 There is always pain behind every "I am fine."

Don't fool yourself that you are doing ok when you are not.

Always remember this when you are sad.

"Why should you cry, you lost someone who didn't love you, but the person lost someone who truly loved them."

One day you will find someone that will cherish you, someone you can share your pain with, but the most crucial part is not rejecting them.

Thank you for reading!!