Bitter truth about Marriage!
Marriage seems to be something we all have urge for, and willing to have this particular thing so called "Marriage" But it's not as cheap as we call it.
While I was about coming up with my article, I came across @Olasquare 's article...... The article seems to be coincidental about what I actually have in mind to write on, not really exactly the same, but it's a bit close. He wrote about Wrong motive, where he highlighted some things which people thought, it's as easy we think about it, but deep down it's not as easy as we have imagined.
There are lot of bitter truth about marriage, I have an opportunity to have Experiences about marriage because I was brought up in a polygamous family. A family where, a Particular Man get married to two or more wives. But mine was just two wives. Nothing seems to be new to me when it comes to Marriage because I have experienced about it.There are lot of Challenges that Prevails, when it comes to Marriage. And there are lot of bitter truth which people don't always like to hear about it, but they are reality. Among them we have;
Marriage is unpredictable!
We can't predict how your family will look like before going into it. If you decide to tell your fiance or fiancee that this is how the both of you will make the family to look like, that's a good planning, but believe me, on the long run, most things you have planned before the getting into that your new family, everything might not work out again. You might not even remember what you have both planned because married is more and more than that. There are certain occurrences that come across in marriage which you don't even expect to come in which will take all your attention.
Enemy in Disguise!
As a partner in a particular relationship, when a relationship is about becoming interesting, there is always an enemy in disguise that will always want to come in between a relationship. The same thing is applicable to marriage, not all Marriage carry out wedding ceremony or introduction. Some marriage that did wedding ceremony, they end up having enemies right from the wedding ceremony event. The enemy might be the friend of the either of the partner. And if either of the partners friends come to the ceremony and they realise that the wedding ceremony is more interesting than when he/she did his/ her own wedding ceremony. Then hatred start to come in towards the marriage. Such person start to act like real friend but deep down he/she is not!
The initial love began to wear away.
The second point above set a stage for this, those who aren't willing to make your marriage successful, then they come to tell you some bad things about your partner. If you're a female, they can tell you, that they say your husband with another girl. And if you're a male, they can probably say that, they met your wife with another man in the bear parlor. You know all sort of things like that.
And this will actually make your love to start wearing away. Those that are in marriage now, you should be answer this Questions in your mind. "Is the initial love towards your husband or your wife, is it still the same as before when you just became wedded couple???" It's a question you should try to answer within you. The answer is NO because, some Challenges has prevail which has made the love to wear away, even if it's not much, at least a bit.
Hatred started prevailing
I have seen a couple that divorced because of just common "Toothpaste" you should be asking me how. This was how it went "the husband wanted to go and brush his teeth, then he applied the Toothpaste on his brush by pressing the Toothpaste from the top of the Toothpaste. And the wife walked up to him and said, next time, toothpaste are press from the bottom and then allowed to flow out to be introduced in the brush". Then the husband disagreed and they started severe disagreement that led to divorce. The Toothpaste caused the divorce because they already have grudges towards themselves before.
Final thought
I think there should be more of orientation program or enlightenment program about marriage, which will help people's Marriage. Those who are yet to get married, can as well pertake in the program, so as to have little experience about setting up their own family. I'm yet to be married as well, I'm not left out lol🙈
Thanks for reading and supporting my article, @Offset I'm a proud Nigerian 🇳🇬💯
I agree, a couple should undergo a counseling first to know more about it and to get an advice on how to improve their marriage...