I saw him cry and hurt
I see releasing everything he has
I see the good life and future he intended for him
I see him destroying
I see him How slowly he dies
It hurts me by the way how I love him.
He just loves it, why? We have been warned about this deadly emotion, it is true that there is deadly love?
Love that kills your dreams.
Sometimes you don't know that you are sacrificing your dreams for someone else. Most of the time, it starts with small things. Send text messages overnight instead of studying or sacrificing enthusiasm.
"I want to be with you so I want to do it."
These are simple things that I didn't think would have a big impact on your decision. It will be a factor in your decision making for you. You choose a situation that is better for you and you than to put your dreams first. You prefer to be with him over what he used to make you happy. Is this a bad thing?
As with medicine, you can improve if you follow the correct dose and on time. This is also important, when too much is dangerous. When the time is not right, it is not good. It's good that you put it ahead of other things you used to love. It's good that you have time and you're both happy, so you're serious.
This means that you are already making it a part of your life. This is normal. The wrong love attacks a person of any age. Most of today's teens are in love. Someone who literally still has milk on his lips, but wants to give his all for the sake of a loved one. I cannot say that this is not love; My only role here is to save you from the wrong love.
Pause and think again.
What did you imagine before you met him? Or your dream will come true when you are with him. Do you still remember? Are you happy you will come close to achieving your dream because it is there? He says that when you're inlove, you do not become selfish. That's fine - this is a waste of time, and you can focus on your work and your time. Even if you are bored with plans and activities, you just try to spend your time for it. Yet if you are a few thousand kilometers away from each other, you will just find a way to talk and live with it. Think more about which of you is better. You learn to be selfless. But are they equal? Could it be selfless for you?
"if you really love, it amounts to accepting that it is already part of your personality".
It's not about owning that person, it's about embracing them as part of you. The element involves respecting what they are dreaming about and all you can do is help that person achieve their dreams. They will work together to grow, they will put you on the path that will make you better and happier because you know that this will shape the personality of the woman / man you love. Are you experiencing this now with your loved one? If you are constantly faced with a situation where you have to choose between your dream and the happiness of your loved one, the first thing to do is stop and assess the situation. You know yourself better, you are not here if you do not enter into this spirit.
Don't regret letting go of the kind of love that is killing your dreams. “This repentance one day will not change your love today. "Don't let the day come when you say, 'I have given up my dream for you,' but it will only change you. It feels like you have put your whole life and future on someone you can’t fight to the end. Someone who, then you give him everything to fix, but he will let you go for what he wants to do. After all, it is difficult to pass the blame on to others. You gave it willingly, didn't you? You have a choice to take care of yourself and your dreams, but you didn’t. You will miss the opportunity to lose it; The saddest thing is that it was your choice.
We must also remember that not all "love" is synonymous with Mag Jova. There is love in parents and children too. Often here we are more connected. Sometimes because of the love of your parents we are put in a situation where you are forced to fulfill your dreams or if you follow the dreams of your parents.
It's the kind of love that kills your dreams and your identity as a unique person.
Are you going to fight or are you just going to fall in love? The easiest job is to shop. But as I have said in my other blogs, there is a way to create your own choice and do both, but it will not be easy. it's yours.
Love that kills a relationship.
"Teh, if you like it. then migrate to another planet." It is not because you are in a relationship, you may forget that you have family and friends. Even if you are married, you still have friends. The man does not disappear from the world the moment you do. I repeat, a relationship is not an asset. Have you ever heard from your friends or family, "You are not with us" or "My son, stay at home." As is often the case, you are not included in the gatherings or gala you have. You will not notice that you are wasting time with others because you are happy to be with your Joao. Stop first and think about the last time you left with friends or family without your boyfriend. Are you here now because your boyfriend is not available? Because he was busy? Because he's partying too? Perhaps you have chosen your friends and family appropriately?
Wag ga'non. You don't have to let go of the people who have shaped you and become part of your journey for your love for someone. Take him into your world and join his world. Love creates, not destroys; it creates friendship and relationships - between lovers, family and God. His friends become your friends, his family becomes your family. There is no separate world just because you love yourself. Do you know what is the best relationship you can have together? It is your relationship with God. If you sacrifice one for him, it will be a great cross. Think about it first.
Giving time to everyone on the planet is not easy. Impossible Yun. So they say that as you mature, your circle of friends shrinks. It's hard to be a politician because you can't spend time with everyone in the world. I just want to say that you don't have to spend all your time with your spouse. Yes, it has come into your life, you need to take care of it and love it. But you don't have to send others to make room for him. Make time for your family and friends. There are many ways, I know you know it. "You can't find justice in what you're doing. I just wrote this on my blog." I want to go ", love that destroys someone else's family. Should you fight for your love like the lives of others? Is there love for both of you that deserves the lives of the few people you choose to destroy?
A love that kills you Look in the mirror.
Are you happy with what you see, are you happy in the eye? Do you still know yourself? Of course you are loved, you have changed. With so much love, we are often unaware that we are neglecting ourselves. We give everything to someone we love. So often our mothers look like lotions. Why? How much love and care they should have! Your wives, children and in-laws too. You have almost no time for yourself, perhaps before buying a new pair of panties, she will first think about the needs of her children and his wife. Mothers are truly praised. This is where a man has an obligation to take care of his wife.
What is the link? Like this motherly love, often in relationships we think more about the well-being of others than of ourselves. One day you just look in the mirror, barely knowing how big you have changed. This is called the day of judgment. Do you regret who you have become? There was once I apologized to my mother because because of us she couldn't buy what she wanted, she couldn't buy new clothes to give us something. He said to me, "Son, I don't regret you." It was the kind of love that kills your old self to make way for a better one. Not because it's different, it's bad. There are times when you don't like it physically, but deep down you know it's more complete. You prefer who you are now to what you were before.
My only point is that whatever happens, take this path that you won't regret. The path that will not destroy your identity now. Choose the kind of love that, even when you look in the mirror, you know that you will not regret the decisions you made, the love you chose to fight for.
*The sensitive part*
before ending this article,
I want to come back to the subject "Love that literally kills".
This part is very sensitive, especially for people who have experienced it. There is a very important person in my life who really did. At first it occurred to me: "How can you end your life for the one you love so much?" It really inspired me to write this blog. It is very heartbreaking to see a person who is important to lose just because they didn't like them. I don't blame the person, I blame the process. We can't say the person he / we love is the “wrong person”, we'll never know. Even married couples can end badly. This is how you love destroys relationships - or even life. It's sad.
If you really love someone then it should be part of your personality