Anger that remains unspoken physically, naturally, and constructively indicates bad words, attitudes, or actions.
It can be expressed as negativity, criticism, judgment or guilt.
Anger directed toward the constructive returns to our hearts and makes our love shine. And we can express our love for kind actions. Kindness comes in many ways, including compassion, help, compassion, forgiveness, and caring. These actions ignite feelings of love for both the recipient and us.
For maximum impact, offer kindness without expecting anything in return, unless you feel more love and connection. Kindness is not a business transaction. Not surprisingly, kindness is one of the four rules of communication.
The other three rules of communication, in case you want a reminder, are: 1) I am talking about you, not others, 2) Of course, in specific terms, not too general, and 3) Listen carefully. .
Four Verbal Kindness
There are four verbal qualities that need to be accumulated in ourselves and others:
Positivity
Praise
Values
Gratitude
We need kindness not only for ourselves but also for other people and things . As a daily exercise, write, think, or speak one to three every day for amazing benefits!
Positive. Being around someone who has something positive, something negative about almost everything is a real attraction. Emphasizing positives makes a big difference. For example, you can declare that your boss did not find you satisfied with the complexity and brightness of the report, or was satisfied with the fact that you presented the issue equally. Seeing a glass half full is like watering a thirsty plant. By leaving a negative observation and instead focusing on what you want, you make your inner condition and others around you wonderful. Focusing on the positive opens the door to fun relationships, communication growth and new solutions.
When spending the day, replace "no" with "yes, yes, yes".
Praise. Who doesn't want to say what they're doing for a praise change? Dr. Glenn Latham's book The Power of Positive Parenting suggests that the ratio of praise to correctness of response should be around twenty-two. And this concept does not only apply to children. On the other side of the circle, it is infinitely more effective to appreciate the actions you want to encourage than to punish people with whom you disagree. People don't get a lot of genuine praise, so keep going when someone is struggling. Here are some examples of compliments: I'm glad you mentioned it. That is your good work. I like what you said now.
Values. A simple gesture of thanks may be all it takes to bring love into a room. Expressing gratitude to others does not blur the distinction between them, but rather exaggerates the goodness we see in others. Instead of criticizing and judging, focus on the qualities or actions that we admire and talk about. Values can be general or specific. Here are some examples of great appreciation: I appreciate how you helped me here. I appreciate your sense of integrity. I like the way you think. I appreciate you cleaning your room this morning. I'm glad you understand how I feel about this.
Gratitude. By appreciating the giveaways you usually offer, you understand how generous and blessed you are. Expressing gratitude reminds us of our kindness, compensates for complaints, and feels worthwhile. The specific feelings of gratitude are as follows. Thank you for your health. I am grateful to my friends and family. Thank you for this meal.
Thank you for your cooperation today.
