Calmness ≠ Weakness

There were these bunch of kids who were known for being the guys who run the place; high school style you know. There were two other guys who were friends but of quite different personas. Now the kids who run the school love to have fun which mostly came from bullying or humiliating other students. On a very bad day for those guys, they chose a certain who seemed like a weakling for their sport. While at it, the other of the two guys saw them and came to his rescue by standing up to those boys. That started a kind of incompatible friendship.

The tough one always protected the weakling as best as he could, but he couldn't be everywhere with him and almost as often as he was not, the weakling was stumped by those guys. The tough friend who despite not being a bully was always picking a fight with anyone who took to him was disappointed at the weakling for not being able to stand for himself or not trying to at all. They often got into arguments after each rescue, but it was getting old.

On a very unfortunate day, the tough guy got into trouble with some mean folks; street gang level folks. He was been bloodied when his weakling friend sighted him. This weakling friend who has never once stood up to school bullies made piecemeal of these street gang folks without breaking a sweat. The friend was shocked. On their way home, he asked him, why he never defended himself against school bullies, and he answered him 'bullies are usually people who feel weak and probably hate themselves, they try to overcompensate by making others look small. If I do take them down always, do you think that will make them feel any bigger?'

A good part of what I just described is a common theme in high schools. The guys who are calm and collected, with a quiet persona are assumed to be weak. That's not surprising though. What most people get wrong though, is that violence and rascality don't necessarily mean or portray strength. In the truest assessment of it, those who are easily violent and got tempered are very weak people who are trying to feel better about themselves by not letting others see that weakness in them by overcompensating for it.

Calmness and the avoidance of violence are more a trait of those that are strong and confident in their ability. They love themselves and believe in themselves the way they are and see no need to want to prove to anyone that they are what they aren't. It also reflects their confidence in their ability to handle themselves in any situation as violent behaviours can also be seen as a flight response from uncertain situations.

Closing Thoughts

If you let people have their way with you, whether through their words or actions, they will want to make you feel like your abhorrence and/or avoidance of violence is a thing of weakness, but it's not. You shouldn't let anyone make you believe that. The strong do not need to prove it. The Lion doesn't need to prove that he's the King of the Jungle, every animal just knows it. Be like the Lion, you've got nothing to prove. A calm persona is nothing close to being a weak one.

This is my second article here on this platform. I just want to use this opportunity to thank you guys for your massive support this far. The number of views on my first article was quite amazing. Thanks, guys for reading my article.

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