College girl and independence 

University life is a unique and exciting experience with all that it has, especially independence and our sense of responsibility for ourselves and our future

In my first year of university, I was going out for the first time from my home street, and that was not an exit and return, but a departure and complete independence from them. No one I know came back next to me. I opened my eyes one morning to find myself among girls I do not know, to go to university and cross a street I do not know. To go to university and there are hundreds of people I do not know there, it was like falling into hell, and between day and night I went out to a place that I did not know, it took a long time until I got used to everything, until I made friends but at the end of it I passed it, and even became another girl thanks to that Experience.

A girl who is able to rely on herself, to travel and go here and there, I am no longer that girl who cries by the wall because girls are pushing her away from the university's tuition window, and I am no longer the girl who is afraid of tomorrow, the experience affected me and polished me, and as much as that Changes There was pain as well. With the beginning of the study, a girl sent me to consult me ​​what she could do when she went to the university in another province, so I thought to write my experience so that it might benefit others.

The advantages of independence

The best thing that parents can offer their sons and daughters is the experience of independence, whether total or partial, permanent or even for a while, the important thing is to make their children go through life to get to know it, try to rely on themselves, in that experience children will know that clothes do not wash themselves, and that food takes Plenty of time to be prepared, and that what we have spoiled must be fixed, otherwise it will not be fixed, children, especially males whose mothers keep them away from the kitchen and home, will learn that there is no shame for a person to clean for himself, and girls learn to manage and behave and rely on themselves to spend what they want to do Because that is very helpful.

Strong women who are able to pave their way in life will come out with confidence and determination, at least she will not be a housewife who cannot do the simplest things outside, just as the children gain maturity, they are able to depend on themselves, so there is no help for them but the forearms, and only their own logic and principle are advised to them. It is also a test and an experiment for part of the serious life that awaits them after graduation.

The disadvantages of that command

As every thing in life carries two faces, one is good and the other is ugly, and ugly is painful and the worst is the feeling of alienation, especially when you are sick and you have no one to help you, and no matter how loyal friends are, their giving has a limit that does not resemble the giving of the father and mother, and in many moments you need your parents beside you To push the tension away from you, to put aside the crises until you pass, but when you are alone, you are fighting the windmills alone, no one is with you, no one can help you, especially if that is your first departure.

Also, as I said, you said that if you do not do what you must do, no one will carry it from you. I remember that one day while I was preparing for an important exam, I forgot to cook food for the other day because the material was not able to leave it for an hour, and when I returned from my exam I grew tired and when I woke up and did not find anything I could eat because I did not prepare the food then I felt so lonely that I cried, and how many times I got sick and the feeling of fatigue increased the feeling of sadness that I am alone, but these are not moments in a lifetime of happiness, boldness and lightness, because you alone are able to push the boat over Old waves, because you alone can swim to the other beach without getting tired.

The most important advice you need

Roommates

Perhaps I was supposed to write the housing first, but I am a complete believer in the saying of the neighbor before the house, and in this case, the roommate before looking for housing because the companion is the one who makes the trip easy or makes the trip more difficult, so the most important thing you look for before moving are the friends who will accompany you You can choose old friends, and also start with new friends, but the most important thing is that they look like you so that the interaction between you becomes easy, so that no clashes occur that distract your life and make you sleep, it is important to always look for those who are similar to us to hold their hands during the trip.

Living

Searching for an apartment early is one of the best things that you can offer yourself because this guarantees that you will find suitable places at reasonable prices as well, and it is better to settle in one place if it provides you with the means of comfort, because this saves a lot of time and effort that are wasted in searching for a new place, from The important thing is to make sure that the electricity, water and services are all working efficiently in your apartment, because some landlords exploit girls in order to pay for these repairs, it is also important to discuss anything that you do not like, extreme shyness wastes rights in many cases, so be careful to consider everything And choose apartments that are closest to the university, as well as with good ventilation, because this is an important point for studying.

the food

It is better for food to be cooked at home, because buying food will require a lot of money, and we still do not have a source of income that allows us to be extravagant, and although the parents do not insist on us, it is part of the responsibility, you can make some foods at home with your mother And take it to your apartment and limit itself to heating it, and there are many foods that are stored for a week without changing their taste, such as vegetables and meat (except for potatoes and zucchini) as well as pizza and pastries stuffed with meat, it is possible to learn to make some easy foods that do not take much time, such as Pasta, or fried fish, and vegetable soup, and the step of preparing and storing some foods for direct cooking saves you a lot of time.

Distribution of tasks

One of the things that makes it easier for you and the roommates is the distribution of tasks, because each of you knows what he must do, this is done in cleaning the housing, or even in collecting the rent and paying it, it is also advisable to resolve disputes quietly if they occur so as not to strike a grudge with its roots among you. .

Money management

One of the most important factors for your success is knowing how to manage money in your possession, so the first thing you do is pay obligations such as paying the rent, the electricity bill, your phone bill, etc., and then you divide the remaining money into your personal expenses, and deduct a part for emergencies that you do not know when you are You can also use the Eisenhower Matrix for money like time, and you divide it into important and urgent, important, urgent and not important, so that you can control what you own.

Time Management

One of the most important factors for success is the time management factor, so you must learn to balance your responsibilities with studying what you learn, and one of the most important factors for gaining time is preparing food in advance as well as maintaining order. As well as organizing your books as long as you finish studying, washing food utensils and dishes after eating, never make anything accumulate even if it is the dishes.