If we are asked to define the word "In a relationship" than we will say that being in a relationship means passing a good quality time and going out on a date.
In a sense, our definition is not wrong but our destination doesn't reflect the main idea of "Being in a relationship". Those who are married will understand correctly what is really meant by "Relationship".
Relationship doesn't mean giving and taking gift, going on a date, sending some romantic messages, saying I love you hundred times in a day or walking on the empty street holding the hands of your lover.
Though when people are in a relationship, people usually do the above mentioned works but these are not the true value of a relationship from my point of view.
Now you'll ask me than what is really mean by "Being in a relationship,don't you?" The above mentioned things are just by product or you can say consequences of being in a relationship.So now I'm defining the word relationship.
You are in a relationship means you have a strong commitment/core belief/attraction/affection/emotion/responsibility/ability to take care of somebody that you'll not leave him/her whatever comes to your path.
More precisely, we can say when you are in relationship that means you are committed to somebody.
In the first part of my article I've shared what it really meant and what "being in a relationship" should be meant. Now from my observations and from my experience I'll differentiate why you should and shouldn't be in a relationship.First I'll share why you should be in a relationship:
-If you are a person who can handle being pressurised/ have the ability to take immense responsibility of another person/have the ability to sacrifice your self on some moments.
Now you can ask when I'm talking about relationship than why I've emphasized on "being pressurised". Because I've seen a lot of love birds in this kind of situations where they are bound to do some certain type of things which they don't like.
They can't share that they are not liking it for the sake of a good relationship.This is also a great example of sacrificing quality too.
You are sacrificing your self interest for your loved ones and if you can do so you are mature enough to be in a relationship.
On the other hand if you look at the other side of a good relationship you'll see "responsibility". Without great responsibility from both the persons it is quite impossible to continue a healthy relationship.
I've seen some "under aged relationships" where responsibility is missing. No matter how much angry you are on your loved ones, you have to call him/her first.
You have to put aside all your anger, all your selfishness when you are in a relationship because these will literally destroy a relationship.
So if you believe that you are mature enough to take good responsibility of another person just like you,I think you are capable enough to take all the hassles of a relationship.
-If you believe that you can make your loved ones happy or keep them happy as long as you can than you can proceed into a relationship.
Let me give you a example imagine you and your loved one are going through a bad day.Now who should ease the hard situation first?I mean who can bring the smile back on both of your faces?
If you think you can hide/ignore all the sufferings for the sake of your loved one and can ease the pain from you and your loved ones heart than you are mature enough to being in a relationship.
- If you can trust another person with all the things you have than again you are well mature to start a relationship.
We all know that relationship also means a bonding of mutual trust and when we are in a relationship we don't hide anything from our loved ones.Hiding something or mistrusting will not let you continue a good relationship.
Now it is a matter of question whom you should trust with all the things you have? If you are under aged and haven't met a lot of people in your life than chances are you may find the wrong person in your relationship.
Than trusting the wrong person may turn your relationship into a horrible nightmare. That's why there should be a perfect age so that he/she can be mature enough to trust the right person.
So if you think you have a good observing quality than you'll know who is the right person and who is not.
- If you can accept someone's imperfections easily and if you can accept someone's flaws easily than you are mature enough for a relationship.Because the person you love may not have the good voice to sing you a song or to tell you a great story.
But at the end of the day you two are meant to be together and you two should be together. We all have some imperfections, some weaknesses but those flaws shouldn't be refrain us from being in love and being loved.
Now my question is why you shouldn't be in a relationship? Very simple answer if you lack the above mentioned qualities I've discussed than you are not mature enough.
Here I've shared why you should and shouldn't be in a healthy relationship from a different point of view.
I can assure you nobody will tell these relationship reasons like this way because all these things are from my experience and observations.
If you have all these than you are the just perfect person to be in a relationship and if you don't than wait until you are mature enough.