The Muddle Factory

Sometimes, it feels like all we do in life is to solve one problem or the other till we cease to exist, thinking about it, I think that's all we actually do. When you finally solve a niggling problem, a new one would be created for you immediately, either by your health, your finances, your boss at work, your spouse, your kids or sometimes by yourself. Yes, we can sometimes create a problem for ourselves when none originally existed, and this we do mostly by overthinking.

Sometimes we have these thoughts in our minds, we fiddle with them, turn them this way, that way, weigh them in Pounds and KG, and before we know it, we bring them to life and right there it would be, in physical form, problems, staring at us in the face.

Have you ever wanted to do something that normally would have given you peace of mind but would have probably raised a few eyebrows, but instead you think to yourself, what are people going to think? Let me do what everybody else is doing, then you end up in a mess and there is no peace of mind in sight. You now have a mess in your hands and you might actually need physical/tangible resources like money and time to fix.

Hmmmm...The world is a mill of problems, there are different specifications for each one of us at different points of our lives, and sometimes there are many specifications for one point in our lives. Like a man who loses wealth and children in a divorce case. How many specifications of problems are those for this one man? Or a poor wretched man who has a chronic disease.

This piece is dedicated to everybody going through one problem or the other, know that you are not alone.

In my poverty warped mind, I used to think 'well, he is rich, what else could be a problem to him' I was naive and I know a lot of people still think this way. You know that thing we want so much but are finding it difficult to come by are usually what we think as the biggest problem there could be. We forget that in everyone's corner, lies a niggling, nagging problem that might appear insignificant to you but a mountain to that person, because you know, he who wears the shoe...you know the rest.

That rich guy might have all the money in the world but probably has anxiety issues, a terminal or chronic disease or a rare medical condition. He might look so powerful and invincible to you in own poverty-ridden eyes but in his mind, he probably would give up his wealth and affluence if it means he gets to enjoy a life free of the kind of illnesses he battles.

We are all dealing with one problem or the other, it never stops, it just changes shape, form and maybe season. It is not fair to play down the problems of others because you presume they have it better and you would have handled theirs better than they can handle yours. So to you out there going through trying times by your own standard, your worry and concerns are valid, your problems aren’t too small insignificant, but please take it easy, the cavalry is on the way.

All we can do is find ways to cope with each one as they come, a good coping mechanism is important.

I know you need to make this money so you can give your mum/dad that life you have so much wanted to give them, to say thank you to them for all their sacrifices, to give your family and loved ones the kind of life they deserve, a life of access and opportunities, a life better than you had. Keep working smart, keep trying your best, your efforts are going to pay off soon. In the meantime, consider living a minimalist life, read good books, to aid your decision making and help keep you sane.

I know that big contract would be a turning point in your life and you are absolutely banking on it, keep putting in the work, keep pressing on and even if you don't win that big contract, you are most likely already in the right circles and you are definitely going to be alright... think about those who'd feel absolutely blessed to be in your present state.

I know that rare medical condition wears you out and wears you down, and sometimes you think, oh, how unfair life has been to you and how fate has dealt you a bad hand, I couldn’t possibly imagine what you could be going through, but please keep holding on. I believe there are many people that draw strength from your existence, those you put smiles on their faces. Please be strong.

I know bearing your own child is something special, your own flesh and blood, every intending parents would want their own, nothing beats that blood connection but as you keep trying, think about all the good kids in foster homes, kids who didn't ask be born but are here anyways and are likely suffering for their mothers/Fathers poor decisions, extend your love and warmth to them while you keep searching. The world is just here and there, give that love you have brewing in your gut to those beautiful kids when you grow to love them, the love might likely not feel any different from the one you have for your blood.

I know you are looking for an effective way to rid yourself of that substance addiction, addiction can weigh a thousand tons on your shoulders when you know you are consciously trying to stop but you are not strong enough. You are strong, believe me, you are strong, you need to be strong to have acknowledged the power that substance has over you and wanting to get rid of it. You are not alone and you are most definitely not weak...I read in The Autobiography Of Malcolm X how the Nation Of Islam effectively treated people with addiction problems. Give the book a read and draw the strength you need to go through the withdrawal.

Our problems don't end; we just recycle and pass them around. Draw strength from the little ones you faced yesterday to face a new one tomorrow, use the knowledge you gained from facing and scaling a big one yesterday to help someone going through the same today. Yeah, that's all we do, solve problems continually till we physically vacate earth. We either solve our own or a friend's/stranger's/relative's with cash, words of advice, kindness, clothes, shelter, you name it, we are always encountering and solving problems.

I am an empathic and sometimes the problems of others absolutely drives me crazy and I get mad emotions, and this is one of my many problems, which I have come to accept and try to use to my advantage, by helping as many people as I can sincerely do, with whatever resources I could muster.

Good people don’t deserve to suffer.