Our inner world suits our outer world when we are aligned with ourselves. We are our "authentic selves." Reconnecting with who we are is about becoming our authentic self.
Most of us, on autopilot, live our lives. We're programmed like an automaton every day and never consider the options we have. What we do and what we think, we let our old habits dominate. For so long, we have traveled down the same old, well-worn road that we believe that this is what life is all about. We embrace it unwittingly and don't think it can be any better or different. In our old ways, we can become so stuck that we don't even know that we're not living, but only surviving.
All of us have spent the best part of our lives working on a series of mistaken convictions, if you think about it. These beliefs can make us feel as if we are deficient in any way. In order to preserve harmony and make everyone happy, we have learned to say and do things.
But, who works to make us happy? My mates, this mission is ours and ours alone. Our capacity to be consistent with ourselves and others is related to our happiness, researchers say.
Our inner world suits our outer world when we are aligned with ourselves. We are our "authentic selves." Reconnecting with who we are is about becoming our authentic self. It's a matter of being true to ourselves. It's about matching our ideas (inner world), vocabulary, and deeds (outer world). It is about accepting our emotions and getting the trust to express them. It is about going deep inside and letting go of the false assumptions that no longer represent us.
Individuals controlled by their adverse conditioned false beliefs also try to satisfy others on their own. They have a tough time being authentic as well. To do or say stuff that goes against the norm, the tried and true, can be frightening.
In our partnerships, where we find ourselves discarding our own desires and needs to make room for what we think others want, our capacity to be honest is sometimes questioned. The consequences of our words and acts are what we fear. "If I speak the truth, will he or she still support me?" "What will happen if I say no?"
Being authentic enables us to love and embrace ourselves at our heart, to do what makes us happy, and to pursue our passions irrespective of who we might disappoint. Doing so can make us vulnerable, but at the same time, it makes it possible to build real, intimate relationships filled with unconditional love.
How does it feel to love ourselves? It's about showing kindness, consideration, and compassion to handle ourselves. For any mistake we make, it is about not judging ourselves harshly or punishing ourselves.
It is about being warm and understanding, accepting and reacting to our inadequacies and imperfections with the same degree of encouragement and appreciation that we openly give others. It's about liking who we are, lock, barrel, and stock.
Self-love forces us to behave with our best interest in mind and challenges us to think, "Why not?" Like they say, you will be made stronger by whatever doesn't destroy you. As you flex this muscle, imagine the inner strength you will create.
When we have enough self-worth and self-esteem, we naturally value ourselves. These aspects make it possible for us to be whole internally and help us connect with the world as our true self. There's one more thing we need to respect ourselves for. This demands that we step past our fears. It needs us to have the strength to feel and respect our emotions, regardless of where they can lead.
When we are our true selves, we have to be able to risk demonstrating our true selves, along with all our imperfections, flaws, and insecurities. Instead of what we think we should be, we must accept who we are. We will need to be willing to love ourselves enough to acknowledge the costs and repercussions of others that our words and acts will evoke. It might sting in science papers at the time, but many come to realize in retrospect that it was the best and smartest thing they've ever done. In all we do every day of our lives, being genuine provides a framework where we can continue to feel joy and happiness.
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By loving first ourselves, we get to know more about our self. Learn to accept your flaws the same way as you love yourself because you are the first one who will love yourself when everyone seemed to dislike you. Thanks for a beautiful article!