Concept of LOVE

Love falls to the human being an important position, as it is a valuable human need, a distinct feeling, and behavior obtained by influence and attraction, and it is one of the impulses and necessities of the human being drawn to and attracted to its control and its consequences, and it is the power that surrounds the human being in many forms and various manifestations, even to be denied Or a denial of humanity and the meanings of life.

Love is a beautiful innate relationship that arises between the male and the female, and carries in its natural harmony of feelings and compatibility of goals, and is based on the understanding, spiritual meeting, harmony, and tenderness, and this relationship aims to create comfort and happiness for both lovers, and to achieve this goal, the two lovers make every sacrifice and the potential they can to reach the desired goal, and this relationship continues with strength and durability as long as happiness, pleasure, and the rare effect is obtained through it and is destroyed in others.

The definition of love in language and convention

Love is known in language dictionaries as a tendency, attraction, intimacy, and affection, and philosophers describe it as an attraction or tendency towards people or towards things that arouse feelings in their usefulness and attraction. The concept idiomatic to love it in line when researchers and writers with what tend to school, it was defined Cordovan as a tendency of self to complement themselves as lacking and settle its existence and was followed by Imam al - Ghazali to emphasize the fact that love is a tendency to what the thrill and attraction, and both definitions reflect the need The soul and its desire for possession.

The concept of love among philosophers

Philosophers dealt with the concept of love as an abstract whole and divided it into many types and different ends. Socrates defined it as imagination and a conception that cannot be achieved in the world of materialism, and combined it with pain and sadness, and removed from it the concept of happiness or the achievement of pleasure. Because the term is a fairy spirit that can only be achieved by visualization and imagination. Among the philosophers who knew the concept of love was the Greek philosopher Yosanias, who divided love into two types:

• The earthly

• The heavenly

and concluded that love is a mediator between the lover and the beloved. As for Plato, he described love as a purposeful act that strives for good, that it is the supreme act that humanity does, and that love is achieved by awareness and delving into the facts.

The concept of love in psychology

Psychologists put love in the causation of the human’s needs and motives and made it justified by the amount of need or purpose in which a person exercises love. Freud indicated in his definition of love that it is merely an end that appears with individual motivation and a psychological need that tends to satisfy through sexual practice. There is no actual existence of love, but rather a need.

For a sexual relationship that appears as an instinct hidden in an independent positive emotion called love. As for Eric Fromm, Freud agreed that love is a need, a motive, and transcends it in his attachment to the sexual instinct without the presence of emotion, Fromm emphasized that love is the human need for belonging and integration, which explains his need for sex, in terms of integration, reproduction, the fulfillment of emotions, and cohesion at the individual level, Family, and society.

Is love a destiny or a decision

The people of jurisprudence and creed believe that everything in the universe is governed by the judgment and destiny of God Almighty and is preceded by the knowledge and absence of God, and this includes the actions of the servants, their movements, their thinking, their choices, and what they fall into from good and evil, and making the matter of man in his life between the divine direction of what was created for him where the limits Humanity does not transcend the power, will and will of God Almighty, between the human choice that is enhanced by reason, assignment, the ability to measure and balance, knowledge of good and evil and the choice between them.

Thus, what an individual does of the things and chosen behaviors between possibilities and alternatives is within his choice, decision, scrutiny, and differentiation between What can achieve his benefit and benefit and what is detrimental to his interest and order, if he needs his food he eats and if he desires to marry he gets married and every one by his choice that is allocated to his account entrusted with the assignment without directing or coercion, so the person has the choice of his will, earning, and dealings, and he has the decision In this without imprisonment for management.

This analogy can be dropped on love, which is originally a human need, which the prophets wanted to appear in their followers as a prominent feature to achieve security and happiness, so they urged them and guided them to it, which was also adopted by the Ancients as a basis for evaluating human behavior and actions. For they made every achievement that does not stem from valued love and appreciation; Love must be the primary motivation for any action or behavior that an individual takes.

Modern society’s view of love is confined to two categories :

• The first believes that love is the product of opportunity and chance, that is, it is related to fate. Which brings the right person at the right time and the right place for souls to meet and coalesce, and a quick emotion arises that generates happiness and happiness in the hearts of those who love each other without effort, fatigue, or initiative.

• The second group believes that love is a learned skill that is acquired through learning and training like various sciences and arts. Love is a science and skill depends on building the psychological and mental capabilities of people to be able and qualified to make love and practice that art realistically, so love is based on that appreciation, my decisions and a human choice related to the pursuit and will of man without the control and management of fate.

Perhaps the greatest indication that falling in love is a voluntary matter that stems from the individual's decision and responsibility is the outcome of love after a certain time, such as the end of the marriage of the lovers by divorce, for example, or the lack of love between them after a period of marriage and meeting, friendship and harmony, this clearly shows that their decision to make love. It ended, or they took a new decision to end that state of love because love was not a momentary fate for them or a changing time course. Rather, the initial decision of love did not obtain permanence and eternity due to its conjunction with the choice and decision subject to the ease of change and change.

This is also cited by the change in the circumstances of the loving transition. To the real-life from which ideals are shed and invaded by normal appearances so that both lovers learn about each other's typical lives without decoration and a high-level arrangement and performance, so that each of them shows his faults and faults by nature without being keen on idealism and over-improving the external image that does not usually appear inside the house, so it unfolds Which was not seen by every lover in his beloved, so a new decision comes to some lovers that end the alleged state of love that he had previously made with the decision of eternal love.