“It’s a numbers game!”
“The more you approach, the more you get rejected, so just deal with it and
keep on fighting the good fight!”
“Accept that 70 percent of girls simply won’t be interested in you.”
“Get used to rejection.”
“Say fuck you rejection.”
“I don’t care because at least I’m being direct and saying exactly what I want, so this makes me an alpha male guy.”
The chances are will have heard at least 2 or 3 of the above statements, and you may very well believe them, so much so, that they have become an integrated part of who you currently are.
Let me first state that this way of thinking is coming from a deep fear, a very stubborn fear and this fear is learned, coached, installed.
Enter you; enter your new world like a blind man irresponsibly swinging a bat of strangled masculinity.
I know this, because I experienced it.
How do you move through life? Or at least picture how you would like to?
Do you want to be the bull in the china shop, aka, the boy who blindly runs after women, without presence and awareness, throwing his unedited thoughts at the opposite sex in an aggressively stupid way, expecting to reap the sexual gratification of 30 percent of the women he meets? Afraid!
Or…
Do you want to be the suave, charming MAN, who uses his masculinity,sexual intelligence, and sensitive awareness to draw women to him?
Without having to chase? Without playing a numbers game?I have experienced both, I know which guy I have chosen to be, and that is the latter.
Being the bull in the china shop is so appealing at the beginning because it feels like an internal rebellion. A giant fuck you to the rules, to society. In many cases there is even an underlying sense of aggression and sadness to it, at least there was in my case, and in many other guys I have seen go this path.
You are encouraged to speak your mind like a real man, and in a sense, be stupid! Socially stupid. Encouraged that it never matters what she wants;only what I want, because I am the man.
It is a very easy way to be, blissfully ignorant, not willing to face your own fears. It is much easier for a man to blurt out exactly what he is thinking to avoid any confusion. The process reminds me of how a drunken baby would behave, and there is nothing sexy about a drunken baby…unless your chosen sexual partner is Gary Glitter.
I “behaved” in this way for many months, accepting stupidity as my saviour.
The statements at the top of this article all became very true to me. I did get rejected FAR more than I got lucky. That was exactly it…luck! If you play that game…you are dependent on raw luck!
Now that I move through life with intelligence and a deep overwhelming sexuality that I can play with, I don’t get rejected to an extreme sense. I honestly cannot remember the last time I have had a woman reject me. This does not come from any type of manipulation or dishonesty, it comes from the opposite, supported by a foundation of understanding of what side of my masculinity she wants and craves.
Because I now know myself to a profound level, I know all the different facets of what I can offer the feminine at any point.Does she crave my sensitivity? My leadership and dominance? Does she want to be aggressively swept off her feet in mere seconds? Or does she want to be seduced in a gentle art form of sexual tension which is drawn out?
Identifying what she wants successfully = no rejection!
You need to see yourself like a sexual chameleon of finesse and refined smoothness, adapting when needed to your surroundings, this is real strength. The simple art of understanding her will drive her wild; it is one of the sexiest qualities you can display to a woman, as it is SO rare in a man.
Be intelligent!!